fh said he isn't buying groomsmen gifts

Gift giving isn't about what's expected. It's about FH thanking them for their time and support. The thing is, FH is not a boy, he's a man and should take care of this himself. Explain it to him this way but do not take care of this for him. You can certainly offer to shop with him though but he should do it. Since you don't have much time left, a gift card is great or perhaps a bottle of liquor each one would like.

You should definitely not do it for him, but you should explain why it is important to get them gifts. They've put a lot of time and money towards the wedding (even if it's just buying their suits) and the gift is a way of saying thank you. It doesn't have to be big or expensive, just thoughtful!

Oh boy sounds like my FH! Yeah I agree you should explain the importance of thanking them. If he is anything like my fiance he still won't care. Take control of it girl! I had too and I have no shame in it. I found coming up with gifts for his men to be a lot easier than for my girls lol.

If it were me, I'd ask him to please do it! If he said no, I'd just end up doing it. Since you're so close to the day, you could do something easy to find & buy like nice socks, tie clip, pocket knife, flask, nice bottle of whiskey (or whatever they drink), a cool beer stein, sunglasses, a watch, really anything! I bought some stuff for my fiance's groomsmen but he appreciated it and is also buying his own things for them.

Offer to help him find gifts. I'm doing it for my FH because well I'm just better at it than he is lol. I don't see a problem helping out. He does plenty for me.

View Quoted Comment That's exactly how I feel! My FH isn't the best at giving gifts no matter the reason!

Just because they don't expect a gift doesn't mean you shouldn't get one.

Giving the bridal party gifts is a way to show them that you appreciate all that they have done to help you get to this point and to thank them for being there and standing up next to you on your special day.

You especially should get them gifts if you're giving your girls a gift. You can't leave people out.

You just need to explain to him the reasons why it should be done and tell him he is running out of time and needs to get on it.

It's not required, but it's certainly a nice gesture to the men who have agreed to spend their time and money to be in the wedding. Even though it's getting close, you can always find some nice things for them locally like a bottle of their favorite liquor, cufflinks, a gift card to their favorite restaurant or store, or even a framed photo of them together with FH. Good luck!

If they are spending money on being in the wedding then they should be given something even if its little. But as a thank you for being part of our wedding. And if you are buying the girls something it will look bad if they guys dont grt anything but the girls do

View Quoted Comment I’m giving the girls their gifts at the AirBnb the night before the wedding, so the guys won’t see that. But still

If he’s not the gift giving type (which I sure know Maybe treating them to lunch the day before/after and a simple glass (mason jar, pint glass, whatever) with a couple airplane bottles in it for them to all have matching drinks on the day of the wedding. For pictures sake it could be fun. And super simple. And not so in your face or so customized where they will never use it again. Just a thought. Because I know it’s right to thank my wedding party for their support, but gifts can come in many forms. Try helping him think outside the realm of say, matching cuff links. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Oh ok. Still he should give them something

Make it fun for him. have him give quirky or meaningful gifts to each vs. giving everyone the same thing.

Ugh, Men!
With one month away, and three months of constantly asking what he is going to get them...
I finally gave him two options, had him chose, and ordered it for him.
Unfortunately Men just think differently and sometimes don't see the true meaning behind it.
I wanted to just be stubborn and let him not end up getting anything because it is his responsibility but in the end who does that effect?
His groomsmen ... So I had to do what was best to make them feel appreciated! 😊
Men, you can't live them... Can't live without them 😉

I've been bugging my FH about getting his grooms party gifts for a year now (at least a little something for his gratitude toward them), and of course he's gotten them nothing... in fact, when he asked each of them to be in the grooms party he texted them; no phone call, in-person asking, or even letter in the mail *eye roll*. We're 21 days away and still nothing, so this weekend I'm taking control and picking out a little something for each groomsman so my FH doesn't show up empty handed.