emotions and stress running high

me with the planning this time or at least he thinks he is. but its really less help not more. and when i tell him that he just shrugs it off and goes back to his program or book. and in my head i am choking the life from him. and i cant reach the photog now. do i call or text him? i emailed him Wednesday just to touch base. and he never got back to me should i be worried?!!! and i met with our baker saturday that went well but now DH as much as i love him is now tag teaming me with her they want to cover the entire cake with frosting roses. i said no because the cake is small and heart shaped the sugar roses would make the cake look more triangle than like a heart besides i dont like flowers on cakes. and i still havent seen that mother of mine. she was spose to go shopping with me last wends day and stood me up! so typical of her! grr! and i feel she's like avoiding me now because i told her that although i thing she would look nice in red we should keep

Open to other colors. and we still have not taken my brothers dog to the vet!! not to mention my sister is stressing me about the fact that she needs to find a new place i did all i could! i emailed and called over 50 renters in her price range that had a gated yard and allowed dogs. she's looked at a few placed then decided she didnt like them. and i cant believe she's planning to marry the guy she's with i love her and being older than i am and just coming out of a bad relationship you would thing she would know she's jumped head first into another one. and if i say anything it's automatically "you just racist!" and i want to beat the life out of her. if she wasnt prego i would! and i found out my grandma is getting worse she has Alzheimer’s and it was agreed to put her in a home about 16 mo ago. she was getting so bad i was constantly calling some one for help. now she has trouble remembering how to walk and she has started having seizures. And there is nothing any one can do.

And it just breaks my heart! And its like why does everything have to happen at once?!!!!! Why cant it be one thing at a time?!!!

Jaclyn M., I'm so sorry all this is going on all at once, it does seem to be how it goes. I don't think I'll be much help with the family issues that are going on, just do what you can to stay calm and know that all these things will work themselves out in the end. About the RSVPs, if I were meeting with my caterer to give her the final headcount and some folks hadn't responded, those people just wouldn't get to go. Especially if you don't have a way to contact those people more directly than email. In terms of b list invites, if you're already planning to give the caterer a head count soon, it may be too late to send those out. About the photographer not emailing you back right away, I'm sure it's just that his/her schedule is busy, not that they're ignoring you. If you need to contact them sooner rather than later, go ahead and call. Worst case scenario you can leave them a message insisting they call you back as soon as possible. And for the cake, maybe you can work out (cont.)

Some compromise where just the top or sides have flowers or you make some pretty design with the flowers. I'm sure if you talk with the baker and your fiance you can all come up with something. Also, you said that your fiance isn't being helpful enough; have you asked him for help with specific things or just declared you need help? Many times guys are willing to help but don't even know where to start. If you can identify some things that he can help with and give him those responsibilities, it might be more productive. Again, so sorry you're in this boat, just remember that this too shall pass

One of my friends is getting married Apr.1. She is having the same issue. She put on the bottom of the R.S.V.P. the date to return by. Making it a little humorous it says if not returned by this date be prepared to show up with a chair and a sandwich.

Last week she sent out reminders on facebook. WHen she reminded them that if you did not R.S.V.P you are to bring a chair and sandwich the mailbox was full two days later.

You need to take a big deep breath. You can't fix every one and their lives. Concentrate on you and your FH. This is your time. They can only make you miserable if you give them that power. I wish you the best of luck.

Funny we did chair and sack lunch at the bottom of the rsvp.

Take a deep breath and concentrate on you and FH. On another note I may just put that on the website. That is hilarious

@ ashley r. this is our vow renewal and last time he left 98% of it up to me and said he felt left out and wanted to help make decisions this time. last time he just agreed what ever i asked and was very annoying. this time i ordered cake sample to try and decide so he knew what i was looking at. he agreed with her and liked the one i liked least when we got home he changed his mind so i called her and told her we changed our mind and then while on the phone he started asking me if the icing designs on the samples was our design i cover the phone and said no. then he went on about how he liked it. and she herd him and said she could do it all over the cake. i said no he asked what i told him what she said then before i knew it it was 2 to 1!!! and the price of the cake was getting way over budget and they made the icing bright pink!!!!! ew! i apologized and hung up on her then i was like wtf?! and he acted like nothing happen and went back to his stupid book. and im like hello?!

@ashley r when doing something with him i try to be as specific as i can. giving him only one or two options at a time like "should we have the wedding party table cloth blue or tan? " if he doesnt like either i suggest 2 more options after a few times i would ask what color he things is best. then he would usually not say anything and go back to his world.

@ Serenityweddingministry and mj.

i love that idea. but i wounder about negative feed back... the guests i cant get R.S.V.P.'S from are oot-ers.