Does anyone else feel awkward with their choice of music?

I think if you do a variety you can have your songs and please everyone.

I would try to mix it up and play some music that you think may appeal to more of your guests, but of course still keep the songs that you guys like.

My FH and I are both huge country music fans, honestly if we could just play country music the entire reception we'd be thrilled with that haha, but I know many of our guests would not enjoy that very much! A lot of our guests (relatives and family friends) are my mom's age, so we are having my mom put together a list of like 30-40 songs that she wants to hear, that are also popular for her generation so they are likely to appeal to those guests.

If you are really set on only playing the music that you and FH like, that's fine, it's your day, but just be aware that your guests will probably not dance as much and may not enjoy themselves as much either. I think your best bet is to ask a few people of a few different ages/backgrounds who will be attending your wedding for a few songs they would like to hear, and mix it into your playlist!

So we did a "Will Dance if You Play..." on our RSVP cards and honestly the older crowd only wanted to hear older slow songs. Do you have a DJ? Usually if they're professional, they know how to play to their crowd. Like we did a top 10 "must play" then the DJ just kinda goes with the party. It's sometimes hard to please everyone, but if you play a good mix of everything and like upbeat songs that will get people dancing, you should be set! Throw some of your favorite songs in there as must plays

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View Quoted Comment We’re limited on budget so we are making a Spotify playlist. We’re paying for it all on our own. If it were up to our families we wouldn’t get married at all because “it’s stupid I can get so much more benefits as a single mother”

90s and 2000s music is the best music to play for a wedding with many people in their 40s! That was the age group of the bulk of our guests too and soo many people were out on the dance floor for the 90s songs. Don't worry about inappropriate songs either, we played the Humpty Dance and everyone loved it.

The only thing was if the DJ played anything really new everyone kinda of paused and looked at eachother weirdly and left the dance floor. Like the Kiki song by Drake only like 3 teenagers enjoyed that, everyone else was like "what in the world"

Also making a spotify playlist as you mentioned above is a good idea! I wish I did that because I would have come up with a better playlist for our guests than the DJ did, he only played a few of our requests and those were the songs the guests enjoyed more than what he picked

My guest list is going to be half ppl in their 30s and half in their 60s lol. We are going to have our DJ start with more "tame" songs. Then turn it up for the last hr and a half or so. You could have your playlist due something similar.

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Oh man, I'm so sorry they feel that way as long as you're happy, that's all that matters in the end! & since you're making your own playlist, I would play the music you like, but also just remember that you want to keep your guests dancing and having fun to music they know, so I would Google Wedding party playlists and that can hopefully give you some inspiration on what to add! Fan faves like the Cha Cha Slide, Cupid Shuffle, are usually always crowd pleasers!

I wouldn’t do all niche music if you want people to dance. It’s nice to have something for everyone. Too much of the same isn’t fun to dance to, especially if is music that’s not for everyone, or not great to dance to. If you’re not trying to have a dance party though, just play whatever, as long as it’s not gratingly loud and obnoxious

I'm honestly so stumped as to what to play because I feel like I'm in the same boat. At this point, I'm leaning toward the playlist being more heavy on what we like, but I think the song request on the RSVP is a great idea because then you'll get some outside input, but feel free to veto if someone picks songs you absolutely hate i.e. any song that tells you how to dance is not happening at our wedding

I say play what you want! We're playing all electronic music because that's what we love! Hopefully doesn't scare anyone but it's our chance to dance together as a married couple for the first time and we want it to be to our music. With that said, we'll play the radio edit versions for propriety's sake.

Hi Mackenzie! Welcome to the WeddingWire community! I loooove me some 90s and early 2000s r&b!! But totally understand what you mean by the explicitly. I say play a mix of everything! Since you are making the playlist yourself, look up some reception favorites and mix them in with your music! I don't think anyone will judge you for playing your favorite music! Are you doing a first dance?