Cutting the guestlist :( help!!!

No children. No plus ones unless they're engaged (or maybe dating 1 years?). Cut offs for relatives can be set (i.e. aunts & uncles only, aunts, uncles, first cousins only, etc).

Use the one-year rule for friends: If you haven't had a meaningful conversation with this person within the last year, don't invite him or her. Avoid the "If I invite this cousin, I must invite all cousins" trap. And don't feel obligated to invite people who invited you to their wedding. Relationships change.

Exclude children if possible. Suddenly a family of six is a manageable party of two. Address the invitations only to those you intend to invite. If your single friend rates an invitation and isn't seeing anyone seriously, you don't have to include "and guest." Keep the list limited to personal friends. Do you hang out with co-workers away from the office? If not, don't invite them. Keep in mind that on average, about 25 percent of your guests won't be able to make it. Make and A, B, and C list. A being those that must be there, the B list is ppl you would like to have and might show. C is you haven't seen them in yrs, don't really know them nor want them.

My kids are IN my wedding- so I feel weird saying "No kids" when My kids are going to be there... Great suggestions though, thanks

I personaly only am inviting immediate family,brothers sisters nieces-nephews...a few cousins that we are close with and very close friends.

family or not.....no plus one if you are not engaged,living with or have been dating for a really long time....no you can not bring your coworker from your job just cause you don't want to come by yourself,no you can not bring the person you meet in the bar last week,and no your so called boyfriend/girlfriend who you are on again off again with can not come.......

and sorry mom or dad your guest list is cut too.

Remember that these are people you're sharing your special day with. Outside of very immediate family members, you aren't required to include anyone on your invitation list.

We had to cut our guest list in half basically because I fell in love with a more expensive venue but all the other ones i went to I just kept comparing to that one so we decided to just go for it so we started by cutting out all the people we haven't seen/spoken to if forever, 2nd cousins and extended family and so on ... in the end it kind of turned out better for us because we have majority of the people that really matter to us and for the most part everyone has been very understanding.

Your children are different than other ppls children but you can also so Parents pls leave all children under the age of ten at home pls.

I agree with tinkerbell. No children (which will make the event much more easier to handle in and of itself), and no plus ones unless it's your BP and they're either engaged or in a long-term relationship (longer than 24 months).

Also a thing to consider is making an A and B list. The A list is people that you couldn't imagine your day being complete without. The B list is those who you would like to have there, but it wouldn't be the end of the world if they didn't show.

What you do is send invites to your A list, but do them earlier than normal and request your RSVP's back sooner than normal. That way, when you start getting "no's" from your A listers, you can still have time to send out invites and get RSVP's from your B listers. Just remember to only send out ONE B list invite for every A list "no" you get. The only time you could make an exception to this is if you have a couple on your A list that says "no" and you have 2 single B listers.

Hope this helps.