Any other anxious brides out there?

Remember you are not alone!! Your FH is with you along the way while planning your day.
I've been getting overwhelmed with work drama and know the pay isn't really worth it anymore but I can't imagine job hunting until after the wedding. I come home some days feeling unmotivated to clean and get my butt into shape but I try my best to stay motivated knowing the wedding is coming up.
I'm sorry your work has you feeling so emotional and I hope whatever the situation be gets better.
I used to be an insomniac working weird hours and my mind on go-go-go mode so I used to listen to guided sleep meditation. If you need help sleeping, I recommend that. And even just short things to do throughout they day may help!
Some people don't care for meditation but I usually feel pretty great after even just like a 10 min thing. Maybe try it out to see if it helps calm you down.

Same! My anxiety is somthing im just developing. Not sure why so late in life im starting. My job makes me cry all the time, so dont feel alone. Everything will be fine! I If your like me, and really cant find motivation most days make sure you take a few extra days before the wedding off of work. I had plenty of time to finish everything but i would get overwhelmed and shut down. Have to worry about every little thing, wedding, work, other stupid stuff. I wasted so much time thinking about all that needed to be done instead of doing it, because i was so anxious i couldn't function. The pressure of coming down to the wire really distracted me and push me to finish so give yourself time to panic and finish at the last minute,atleast 3 days. those will be the craziest most productive days if your like me.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I have zero motivation most days. I spend more time napping than I do awake because i would rather run away (nap) from my problems than dealin with them. I realize that, that is wrong and I shouldn’t but my anxiety gets so bad that I literally can not function.

And yes I am seeing someone. It helps but I still have my days.

My wedding is August 18, 2018
I feel the same way and dont know how to handle it. When I try to talk to him he think Its something he did to make me feel this way.

I mean this in the kindest and gentlest way possible, but if you can, get to a doctor. Describe your anxiety symptoms. They may be able to give you something to help bring you back down to Earth when you get worked up, or they may be able to refer you to a therapist to help you discover coping mechanisms for stress that maybe you don't already know. Spending six hours in bed crying is terrible, and no one should feel that bad over something that happened at work. Remember, your health and happiness are more important than anything else. You aren't alone. Lean on the people who love you for strength until you find a game plan on how to cope with your anxiety.

Hi Sarah. I am so sorry to hear this. Wedding planning can definitely trigger certain emotions. Just keep your mind focused on the positive aspects, and take things one day at a time. Don’t allow any part to stress or overwhelm you. All things will eventually come together. You can do this! Hang in there, and please let me know if there is anything we can do to assist you further!

I'm so sorry to hear so many of us are going through a difficult time right now. Wedding stress can be tough enough, but when you add that onto anxiety and depression it can be easy to get overwhelmed. I absolutely recommend that anyone experiencing these feelings talk to a professional, and talk to your support network of friends and family. This could mean seeking counseling, checking to see whether your job offers an employee assistance program, getting an appointment with your primary care doc to start talking about options, or using online and phone resources. 7 Cups of Tea, The Samaritans, Mental Health America, and the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (their phone service and online resources are there for all kinds of difficulties, not just suicide) are all wonderful options. And if anyone wants to talk more, or get more resources, you can reach me at community@weddingwire.com.

You are not alone! I did the same thing in college. I would nap instead of working, freak out that I so much to do, stay up late feeling overwhelmed but get very little accomplished. Then I would decide I couldn't go to class because my work wasn't done and I need to catch up during the day, but first, a nap... annnnnd the cycle repeats... I remember one day I couldn't find my glasses so I just sat on the floor for 2 hours crying. I felt so overwhelmed and helpless even though my vision isn't really bad. I could have kept looking, I could have gone to class without them but neither of those options really seemed possible at the time. I finally called my BF to tell him how upset I was and pointed out that I might need to see someone to talk. Over time, that helped me a lot.

I am glad you're seeing someone but I know that it won't erase everything. I wish I had some "trick" or "tip" to offer to help but I think you already know that there isn't one. I periodically have minor melt downs about how we aren't going to be able to get things done for the wedding. One thing that helps me relax is to remember that all you need to get married is you, your significant other, a license and an officiant (which is why she was the first vendor we paid, heh). Everything else is just fluff. It's fun and pretty but ultimately, you will still be just as married if you don't finish your signs or forget to order favors or whatever.

I'm sending good thoughts your way!

You are not alone. We don't all have financial help for a wedding coordinator. Planning a wedding is super stressful and everyone keeps telling me to "enjoy it". Seriously? The costs of this #@%$ is ridiculous and these vendors are driving me up a wall. Just try to lean on who you can... I'm sure people are so tired of hearing me talk about wedding stuff, but it's the only thing I find solace in.. lol.. Goodluck!

I totally understand. When I get like that, I force myself to take a few days completely away from wedding stuff. Step away from it, try not to think about it, and don't let yourself do ANY work for it or even talk about it. Spend time with your FH instead! That is usually enough to give me more perspective... reminding me that the wedding isn't everything. Writing your ceremony can wait. EVERYTHING can wait.

I had a really great therapist who told me to think of crippling anxiety issues as your body's way of begging you to slow down or take a break. I love thinking of it like that because it makes me feel like I have more control over it. If you are crying for 6 hours trying to write your ceremony... you CLEARLY need a break. Your brain and your body are begging you for a break... give it to them! And don't guilt yourself over it. Take a step back and allow your mind to relax and take care of itself.

Your mental health is more important than the wedding, than your job, than everything else. You know how on an airplane they say to put the oxygen mask on yourself before you help others? You have to take care of yourself and your health first. Everything else will not get done if YOU are not taken care of. Everything else is secondary.

I hope this helped, and I hope you start to feel better!