advise: involving my daughter!

If you are doing a unity candle or sand ceremony, you could make her a part of that. Also, I've seen people present a special necklace to their children during the ceremony.

When my ex-husband and I got maried.. I got my daughter a necklace ... I will have to search for it.. it is something like a father, and mother and child necklace... And my fiance/husband gave it to her after he placed my ring on my finger!!I will try to find it and send you a link in the post tomorrow...

Http://www.vandrjewelry.com/Cats/Loving Family Pendants/?selection=5&OVRAW=family unity necklace&OVKEY=family unity necklace&OVMTC=standard&OVADID=****&OVKWID=****&OVCAMPGID=****&OVADGRPID=****&OVNDID=ND1

And you can get a smaller chain for her little neck... my daughter felt so special... You can also look up more ideas under Family Unity Jewelry! Good luck finding something!

This is what we are doing with our children. I have two and FH has one.

https://www.familymedallion.com/weddings.htm

Www.familymedallion.com/weddings.htm

Here is an example of Unity Sand Ceremony:

Unity Sand Ceremony

Instead of lighting one candle from two, pour two containers of sand into a third container simultaneously. (If children are a part of the new family, the sand ceremony can involve them also. Some families choose a different color for each member.)

1

Bride and Groom, you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings and the exchange of a kiss, and this covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. The most beautiful example of this partnership is the marriage relationship. You have committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand one, representing you, Scotty and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you, Groom, cont.

And all that you were and all that you are, and all that you will ever be. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.

2

Bride and Groom, today you join your separate lives together. The two separate bottles of sand symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends. They represent all that you are and all that you’ll ever be as an individual. They also represent your lives before today. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.

I am sure it can be modified for your daughter.

You should talk to you Officiant about this. Some have restrictions, others welcome and have suggestions.

When my mom got married to my stepdad, we added a part in the ceremony after they exchanged rings when he gave me a ring and gave my brother the same ring but on a necklace. He put my ring on my right hand and pu the necklace around my brother's neck. The rings were nice and simple but had four interlocking circles - one for each one of us. We also signed a family something-or-other that was similar to the marriage license they signed during the ceremony. It was nice because they did all of the traditonal stuff and then incorporated my brother and I in a very similar way to what they did.

Just some ideas

Your FH can make "vows" to your daughter. I involve the children in the unity sand pouring and at the end pronounce them a family.

We are involving his son, my future stepson. It'll will kind of be like, Do you take Talia to be your stepmother and honor her...And then I'll present him with a cross necklace to "seal the deal"!

I saw a wedding where the child in the relationship was also given a small ring since it was the coming together of a family, and not just the couple becoming one. I thought it looked very special. The couple wrote their own vows and the grown had vows for his new stepdaughter about wanting to be a good father to her.

At one of my sister's friend's wedding, the bride and groom had their 2-year-old son stand up there with them. He held both their hands, and when they said "I DO" he said "I do". It was completely UNplanned and everyone laughed but it was soo cute.

Thanks all... I will keep it in mind... LovelyQ i was thinking of her doing something similar! meeting me half way and walking down with me since I still want "my shining moment" =)

When my father and stepmother were married, I was younger than your daughter. There were ribbons around each layer of cake. I was able to pull the ribbons. At the end of one of the ribbons was a ring that had the wedding date inscribed on the inside.