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a few questions regarding wedding party gifts

Rachelle, on September 12, 2018 at 9:19 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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Hello everyone!

I have some questions I was hoping to get some opinions/advice on regarding gifts for those in the wedding party.

1. Bridesmaids gifts: I have three wonderful ladies in my bridal party; my sister, and my two future sister in laws. As far as the bridesmaids dress went, I was very lax. All I asked was that they were some shade of grey. My wedding is a DW in Jamaica, so I wanted everyone to find something budget friendly, that wasn’t too hot, and that they liked. To tie them all in together, I was thinking about purchasing them each a really nice matching pair of rose gold earrings (rose gold is in my color palette) for them to also wear during the wedding. Is this poor form to treat their “day of” jewelry as their gift for being in the bridal party as well? I won’t require them to wear them if they don’t want to, but thought it might look nice. If this is acceptable, when should I give them to them? Since we are all leaving five days before the wedding, I’m not sure the night before would work, since I don’t want them to purchase something else.

2. Both the officiant (a looooong time family friend of my FH) and my FMIL are very wealthy and are not much into jewelry. Any ideas for some thank you gifts that are not jewelry, but are also meaningful and easily packable for the trip? I would like to present them after the wedding, but am limited to things I can fit in our fatally filling up suitcases 😂

Thanks! ❤️

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Latest activity by Rachael, on September 13, 2018 at 12:01 PM

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Taylor · on September 12, 2018 at 9:55 PM
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The rose gold jewelry is a great gift n not in poor taste at all. My daughter did the same thing and will present them in a personalized make up bag.
As far as when to present...maybe have a girls date for lunch or dinner n give it to them then.
As far as the efficient...maybe something that he enjoys as a hobby? I.e. baseball fan..etc.
Fmil....maybe order one of those nice blankets with a collage of pictures of her son or their family?
Just a thought....
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Caytlyn · on September 13, 2018 at 12:33 AM
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Gifts for your BMs should be a thank you doe participating in your wedding. Jewelry for your wedding isn’t a thank you. It’s great that you want to provide the earrings, but you should gift something else as well. Shop like you would for their birthdays or Christmas. A gift card to their favorite store, restaurant, or spa works great. I would go with something like this for the officiant as well. As far as FMIL, leave it up to your FS. They should be the one shopping for their own mother.
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Caytlyn · on September 13, 2018 at 12:34 AM
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*for not doe
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Brittany · on September 13, 2018 at 11:44 AM
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I'm paying for my girls hair and giving them a necklace for the wedding that they will keep... these are the only "gifts" I have ever received as a BM as well so I find it very acceptable especially since I got them a great deal on the dresses! This whole gift thing if you ask me has gotten a little out of control.
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Rachael · on September 13, 2018 at 12:01 PM
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If you go the jewelry route I would make it more personalized. Do they all like and wear rose gold? A lot of people are particular about the type of metal they wear (I personally only wear silver or white gold). A rose gold earring set wouldn't be a good gift for me because it wouldn't get any use. Also do they all wear earrings? If one of them doesn't wear earrings (or wears the same pair every day) that probably isn't a good gift for them. I have my ears pierced but I very rarely wear earrings.
If you want to go the jewelry route I would set a budget for each and pick out a piece of jewelry for each person as if it would be a birthday or Christmas gift. Don't try to match them; focus on the metal and type of jewelry they would like personally.
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