How have you guys navigated talking about the wedding in front of people who are (probably) not invited? In the beginning, I was so paranoid about talking about it in front of people until we had a better idea of the invite list that I just put off telling people we were engaged.
We haven't sent out any save the dates yet and are still finalizing the guest list but basically, I have 3 scenarios.
1. Coworkers: They will probably not be invited. I try not to talk about it in front of them too much. Did once a lot after a cocktail and deeply regretted it (This was when our wedding was almost one year out). I've mentioned it in passing very occasionally/when people ask otherwise.
2. Friends who say things like "I hope we're invited" or "are we on the list?!" They are most likely going to be invited. I think I handled this ok: I didn't respond to the former and to the latter, I said "we are still working on the list and getting an idea of the family guest list before we get to the friends."
3. Friends who were invited but now I'm not sure. We hung out and they asked about it and I talked about it because I did plan to invite them anyways. But now I'm not positive...no drama or anything...just had a bit of change of heart. Now I feel like I have to invite them though.
Yikes.