I’m pretty introverted and I like keeping to myself, my fiancé is the same. When I got engaged, I told everyone that I wanted a small wedding with just people that my fiancé and I knew and that are close us. When I counted out all the people that were important to us, it came out to around 60 people which we both thought was a good amount. My fiancé’s parents are wealthy and for their daughter’s wedding, my fiancé’s mom planned a 500 person wedding and rented out a very popular venue for the whole day. Fiancé’s mom is an event planner so she’s an expert at planning things and since my family is not in the same financial position as their family, my fiancé and his parents are paying for most of the wedding. My future mother in law has a different plan for the wedding. It’s going to be about 200 people and more lavish than what my fiancé and I had in mind. I was thinking quick, small ceremony and then evening meal from our favorite restaurant in the backyard (it’s a very nice backyard with a beach and ocean). I feel like I have been ignored by everyone during the wedding planning, even the smallest thing is being overlook, like I asked if we could skip handing out individual paper programs because I didn’t like the waste and instead have one big program and the welcome table. My in laws didn’t like that because it was less elegant. I love my future family but I feel like I’m going to be a guest at my own wedding. I’m not used to being the center of attention and having large crowds around me, I‘m scared I’m going to panic and feel overwhelmed and make a fool of myself. Does anyone else feel this way? How do I get over my feelings?