Disappointing RSVPs

Oh yeah. A lot of his friends RSVP'd "no" because...they had to work. We sent out STD's 9 months in advance, and to me, that was a really shitty response.

My aunt's (my closest relative!) latest reason why she can't come to my wedding is because she "wont' subject herself to illegal searches without a warrant" (go through the security line at the airport).

I definitely understand being upset. There are those no's that are, yeah ok whatever. Then there are those no's that hurt. My uncles sister, who is like my aunt, knew about our wedding even before the STD'S went out and said they would be there. They live in FL and travel to NY all the time so that's not the issue, we get the rsvp back, Decline. No reason, just decline. That hurt the most.

Glad to know I'm not the only one feeling this! Ugh sometimes people are lame..

I had a few decline (invitations haven't been sent yet) because they can't bring their kids. Oh and one cousin has to work. My wedding is in August Lol - OH WELL, stay the fuck home!!

That stinks! We haven't gotten any verbal no's yet and we aren't sending out invites until August. I might be on the complete opposite end as you but I can't wait for people to say no. There are very few people on my list that I will be upset about if they say no....is that mean? To clarify we will be bummed if people say no but are hoping for at least 25 so the venue is more comfortable.

Edit: I will never understand the "I have to work". You knew about this months in advance. You just don't want to come and use a vaca day....be honest!

I hate it when that happens and it does kind of hurt. I just had a cousin that i. Close to tell me 4 months before my wedding that she can't come because her mom can't watch her kid and we're having a kid free day. What about all the other family members who could watch your kid. Like his other grandmother. It feels like they don't want to make any effort to share in your happiness.

I have a very small family and had some who I don't see very often decline and not provide a reason why. I'm not super close with them, so I just got over it. I don't want people there that don't really want to be anyway. But sorry, I can understand why it hurts your feelings.

People don't want to get on a plane for weddings. And don't want to admit that, or the expense, etc. So they make up reasons. Don't let it bother you.

Agreed. Sometimes the reason given isn't the real reason, especially when the real reason is embarrassing to that person or is so depressingly sad that it might distract you (the bride) from having a good time. Don't take it personally. You will be surrounded by people who love you on your wedding day. If the groom has more people there than you, it's really not a big deal, because they are your people now, too.