Disappointed

This is a difficult process, we want everyone to share our same excitement and joy, but the reality is very few and far between outside you and your FH are as excited. It sucks!


I’m sorry you feel this way, but look at the bright side, you’re a month away from marrying your best friend, lover and soulmate! Nothing else matters

I'm so sorry, but unfortunately no one is ever as excited about a wedding as the bride and groom. That being said, planning is up to the bride and groom unless someone offers to help so maybe they just don't like planning, don't have the time, or simply are as interested as you would like. It definitely sucks. I would try to focus on the positive which is that you are marrying the man of your dreams. If you want your parents in the processional include them in whatever order you want.

One thing I have learned in the wedding planning process is that no one will be as excited for your wedding as you are, close friends and family included.

I’ve never seen family be apart of the processional (unless in the bridal party) but if it is something that is important to you, I think you need to voice that to your family and explain to them how special it would be for them to have that part on the day.

I’m sorry you’re feeling like this! I went through the same kind of feelings about a month out too. It definitely sucks. I had to just let myself feel sad about it and give myself the space to be able to accept it and refocus on all the good. We will always be here to give you support and lift you up any way we can!

Parents are traditionally the last guest seated, before the ceremony starts, except one escorting the bride. Since it is not usual for parents to be in the procession, they may be disinterested because it is unfamiliar, not usually done. That does not mean they are not interested in you or your wedding. .... Do you often talk with your ladies, or see them, other than weddings related stuff? or call each individually to talk about wedding things? Because if you send out texts to a group, or emails, many people treat that as they do memos. Read it. Deal with it if it happens. And many wedding parties, everyone knows the bride as an individual, and may know some others. But they do not feel like a group or team, and do not warm up to being addressed that way. Talk to them. Not missives and memos, but a conversation. Separately. With each of them. You will likely find they are quite interested in the wedding itself.

Hi there, I totally understand where you are coming from. I feel the same way when I talk about my wedding or ask for advice. I almost had to bribe people to come dress shopping with me.. Am I the only one who cares. 😢. I just can’t wait till my day in June. (Postponed from last June). Again people thought it was no big deal that I had to postponed!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the reply! I could possibly have the terminology wrong about the them being about of the processional, but in the weddings i have attended I have seen parents and grandparents walk down the aisle before the bridal party, but instead our parents would like to enter quietly with the rest of our guest rather than being honored in any type of way.. as for my bridesmaids they are my three closest cousins. We all grew up together and talk daily in a group chat about everything. So today when i needed a little support from my girls seeing them read the message and not reply just felt like my breaking point.. keep in mind, i do my best to limit any wedding talk to a minimum unless it specifically applies to them.

I wouldn’t take it too personally. Some details of wedding planning are much more exciting than others. While your girls may have been eager to hear your thoughts on dresses or decor, they are less likely to be intrigued by details such as processional order.

View Quoted Comment I with you on everyone thinking nothing of postponing or abruptly changing plans! We planned a destination wedding for over a year just to cancel three months before. I wish people realized how disappointing it would could be for those of us that were so excited about our day

View Quoted Comment Some people do dogs, children carrying signs, wagons of toddlers, and yup, parents and grandparents. But usual average American, not influenced by reality tv , Parent seating is last during the prelude. However, another choice many make, is what both my mom and parents of the groom wanted, and did : to sit a few minutes quietly in the ceremony area, before anyone else. And look at how beautiful things were. They said, separately months before that they wanted that. Fine with us. And because of my cultural background, B and G face each other, family seats behind them for closest family. Which means by being seated early, the parents could see everyone enter and be seated, greetings and waving, not seated with people behind them. Fine with us. And one grandmother wanted a corsage for her jacket, and everyone else said no to corsages or bouts. In the great scheme of things, these little things don't matter. And wanting an alternate way of doing things that hurts nothing, is not lack of interest. I think you will find that while not vibrating with excitement, in their own way they are happily thinking about things. Relax. They are on your side.🙂

We haven’t even discussed it yet. Getting kind of nervous about it now! My mother passed 2 yrs ago so I’m involving his mom with as much as possible. He’s an only child & has never been married so she’s beyond excited about this!

Like others have said, no one will ever be as excited about your wedding as you. Add in a pandemic and everyones stress about that, and thats probably not helping. I’d be upset about them not wanting to be in the processional too though. I went through this with my MIL where she just didnt seem interested in our wedding planning, and I thought it was me. Then my SIL got engaged and she acted the same way haha. So some people just dont care for weddings, I would try really hard not to take it personally

I get what you are saying but at the end of the day, its your wedding. I think you and your fiance will be the most excited about your day, that's normal though.

As far as the processional, I know that parents usually walk down the aisle last before the ceremony starts but I have never seen them in the processional unless they are a part of the bridal party.

Been there, done that 😰. We all express love and excitement differently so maybe they do care but just not showing it the way you would like them to...


I will admit that I decided not to have a traditional wedding bc I felt the lack of excitement too. Especially from my mom and FMIL.

I feel the same way. The person that keeps me sane is my MOH and my fiance. I can go on and on to my MOH. My fiance doesn't care much about flowers and decorations, so I involve him by having him build something or asking his opinion on things he will talk about. We are financially supporting this wedding and only our moms have offered to help us. My mom and stepdad paid for my dress, his mom wants to pay for the cake. What makes me feel better about all this is knowing that it is our day. So we made food choices, spent less money on guests and more on stuff for us, because other people sometimes suck. I would focus on the positives. Don't be afraid to make bride friends as well. I feel like wedding wire is a community. Let it out girlfriend! But don't take it personally nor let it bring you down. This will be the day you and your FH will remember for the rest of your lives. Plan it how yall want to. It makes making decisions simpler. Hope this helps.