Disappointed in my sister who's not excited about the wedding

Nobody is going to be as excited about your wedding as you are.

And hey, she will be there to celebrate with you when it counts. She'll be there at the wedding. That's more than I can say for my sister.

That's kind of a bitchy thing for her to say but I get it. If anyone isn't going to sugar coat something for me just to spare my feelings it's my sister. Maybe she will be more excited when she's here with you and the big day arrives.

Purplekitten, I don't expect her to be at the same level of excitement as I am. However my new sister and friends around me have shown so much more excitement than my own little sister, so I'm just rather disappointed. We do kind of have that relationship growing up though. She's always felt like she's in a competition with me and we have our disagreements, but isn't that how all sisters are.

Maybe once she is here and away from the school aspect she will get excited! Sometimes its hard to get excited if you aren't in that environment!

I totally get where you're coming from. And I know it sucks to feel bad wishing that people cared, since we all know, logically, that they don't owe us anything. No one else is really excited about my wedding, but I'm not really going crazy over it, myself. I do sometimes think that it would be nice to have just one totally wedding-obsessed BM, even just to keep me motivated when I feel like giving up, as my mother doesn't really care about the wedding, either. But I totally get that every single one of my BMs has sooo much going on, and so much stress of their own, without having to think about a big party...that I'm throwing for myself...to celebrate my own happiness.

Your sister is probably just having a rough week. I remember being in school and feeling like adding anything at all to my load was inconceivable. Once she's here for the wedding, I bet your sister will be super into it, and probably really helpful. But she's gotta do her, too. I really get where you're coming from, though. I really wish people cared, but at the same time, I totally don't think they should HAVE to. And I feel awful for even thinking they should care. It would just be nice lol

I am a little sister and my sister and I have a little bit of competition between the two of Us. My fiancé was supposed to propose a WHILE ago. Money didn't properly fall in place and we got engaged later than hope. In that time, my sister got engaged before me. I wasn't excited for her for a long time. Her wedding is this Saturday tho and I couldn't be more freakin excited! But. I See your sisters point of view because if I wasn't involved (MOH) I would be so miserable and not excited at all. So be patient. And she will get excited! Start asking her more questions and she Will be happy to help. Make her feel like her opinion is so valuable to you.

Some people just aren't wedding people. It does suck I know it hurts my feelings a little when I thought someone would be excited about my wedding. But eh just gotta take her how she is.

My sister in law couldn't give 2 shits less about my wedding. When I invited her to be in the wedding party she said no. She had never once asked me how things were going. She's not even going to come to the rehearsal dinner. I have gotten to the point if she wants to be a wet blanket, so be it. Not to hijack your thread but try to embrace the people who ARE excited for you

I would bet money that once she's here and staying with you, her excitement level will go up. Distance makes it harder to visualize things and be involved, especially if your mind and your days are swallowed up with school and stuff

Keep in mind - she shouldn't be excited. It's not her wedding. She, hopefully, however, is happy. Some people are happy without being overtly cheerful. I wasn't excited for anyone else's wedding. I was happy for them, but I wasn't jumping up and down and squealing for joy.

I agree with kalamityen once she is around she will probably be excited. But that is one thing that is hard, keeping the wedding, "yay me!", excitement down. Honestly although it is big for us just like some people always talk about their kids, weddings have the same affect.

She is busy and overseas, just let her enjoy her time there and I am sure she will be excited and helpful once she is with you before the wedding.

Aw, I'm sorry That definitely stings and I would feel hurt too if my little sister were acting that way. If she's still in college I'm assuming she's in her early 20s. TBH, most people that age are still very self-involved. I have a feeling once she's home and its the wedding day, she will be more excited/happy for you!

If it's any consolation, my only sister declined to be in the wedding because her ex boyfriend is one of the groomsmen (he is our son's godfather). I'm happy that she will attend the wedding, but I have to admit I'm hurt and disappointed that she said no to her own sister. Having just completed my undergrad myself, I understand how your sister may be feeling. It gets really daunting and intense. That's why I crammed 5 courses in my last semester to get it over with so that I could dedicate my time to the wedding planning. Like the other ladies said, she'll get more excited when she's home with the family. You all will have the best time at your wedding!

Annakay511, both my sisters traveled abroad in college and honestly they are out exploring I don't think that just because they aren't focused on their sister's wedding makes them self-involved. Like Joyce said busy with school and taking in her time overseas, which she should! Having an extended time abroad after college is something most people won't do again.

I don't think she was being self involved saying she wasn't excited just honest. Sure people will be excited at the start but after so many months you can't expect everyone to still want/have the wedding be their primary focus or top priority. It is your major life event and not theirs, I think you have to remember that all your BPs have lives outside of the wedding.

I think you will find a lot of people that are self-involved exist at all ages.

Sorry but I don't think your sister is doing it maliciously or to hurt your feelings (at least I hope not) and I would hate to see this turn into a sister bashing discussion you might regret later.