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Just Said Yes November 2020

Disappointed in Bridal Shower

Kristen, on September 3, 2020 at 2:49 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 17

Hi everyone.

So this past Saturday was my bridal shower, it was held at a beautiful winery. Because of covid, there were social distancing restrictions in place, one of them being no more than 6 guests per table. The total number of people was 13 (including myself). Upon arrival, the tables had place settings with guests name. I guess when the shower arrangements were made it was decided that the 12 guests would sit at two tables (6 each) and I would sit at a smaller table by myself so that people could come to where I was sitting, instead of placing me at a table of 6 where the other table of 6 wouldn't be able to easily interact with me. Sounds good in concept, but the reality was that I barely ended up spending time with anyone and ended up eating lunch & dessert alone and not being part of the table conversations. I'm not the outgoing type and didn't want to be shouting at people from across the room and didn't want to be rude to the shower host. I haven't seen any of the guests in months due to covid so it was just disappointing the way it turned out. I won't be mentioning this to anyone so I thought I'd vent here, thanks for letting me.

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Latest activity by Jessica, on September 5, 2020 at 12:14 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I can see why you're disappointed, but I'm not sure what the other option was here. Putting you at a table of 6 would have violated the social distancing guidelines.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Aw man! Did you go to any guests and talk to them yourself? But that is a bummer that you didn’t have as good of a time but I hope you enjoyed some parts of it
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  • K
    Just Said Yes November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    No, I was told by the host to sit at my table so that I could spend quality time with people a couple at a time but that didn't happen...I think everyone was so excited to see each other since it's been months that I kind of just faded into the background.

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  • K
    Just Said Yes November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I agree, no other really good options were available.

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  • Alexandria
    Expert November 2020
    Alexandria ·
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    Oh I'm sorry hon, it's so hard to try and do gatherings and abide by all COVID restriction. I'm sure no one intentionally left you out and are all very happy for you and your big day! Hopefully things can be arranged a little differently for your bachelorette party that way this won't be an issue. Keep your chin up, we are all here for you!! Smiley heart

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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I’m sorry you didn’t enjoy your bridal shower. You didn’t want to get up and sit with others?
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  • Marcia
    Expert March 2021
    Marcia ·
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    I'm sorry this happened and was such a bummer. I think the intentions were good, but a bit og an execution flop. Maybe 3 tables of 4 would have worked better. I hope you can look forward to your big day.
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  • K
    Just Said Yes November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    There were size restrictions and people just stayed at their tables and interacted with their fellow table mates. The shower host told me upon arrival to just stay at my table and people would come over..that was the intention.

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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    Oh wow sorry you were unable to enjoy
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  • Bo Miller
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    Bo Miller ·
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    Oh man I am so sorry! The host should have made it clear to all of the guest as well that they should have been coming over to you so that you weren't alone the entire time.

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  • Sarah
    Savvy October 2020
    Sarah ·
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    They totally could have done 3 tables of 4, and had the bride rotate. I would’ve hated this too. Nobody wants to sit alone.
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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    Oh no! I’m so sorry it turned out that way. Definitely a weird set up, I hope your Bach party is more merry and memorable
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  • Eri
    Super October 2020
    Eri ·
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    Ugh, I'm so sorry. I'm super shy and introverted and would've been very uncomfortable in your shoes.

    So many of these things sound good in practice, but since we're in uncharted territory for the most part, there's going to be hiccups in the execution.

    Not that hindsight helps much at this point, but it would have been nice if someone sort of took charge to bring people to you, or had you rotate at smaller tables as a PP mentioned.

    You're definitely allowed to be bummed, but I hope you still enjoyed the food and being out and about for a little bit. Smiley heart

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  • J
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    Oh that sounds awful! I can imagine that being a huge disappointment! Hopefully your wedding day will be less isolating.
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  • M
    Dedicated May 2021
    Maybride ·
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    Omg that is such terrible planning from your bridal party! I’m sorry that happened to you, and hope they come through in other areas of your planning instead!
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  • Vicky
    VIP January 2020
    Vicky ·
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    That's a real bummer. I'm sorry.

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  • Jessica
    Dedicated July 2020
    Jessica ·
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    Oh no, I’m sorry! This is a bummer but if it helps you look at it a bit different sometimes the best laid plans just don’t go accordingly. i hope you do not feel like you were left out or forgotten - people can get wrapped up in fun and lose track but they were all there and do care about you. Again so sorry, I know it’s hard to not feel like you missed out on a big event that can’t be redone but focus on the wedding ahead and it’ll start to seem less disappointing.
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