Disagree over where to live

My wife and I just recently got married in July. We had been together for about a year and a half before the wedding and had both agreed that we would move away from the town welhere we met at some point after we got married. Our reasons for moving were numerous, but the main reason was to move to a larger metropolitan area.



On our honeymoon, I found out that I had an interview for a position in a larger metro area, about an hour away from some of her family. I ultimately was offered the job and we were both elated to move to the new city.
My wife was interested in living in the same town as her family, but I really do don't like the town much and it wasn't the larger city we had talked about moving to. It was very similar to the city we just left. Qe decided qe didn't want to buy in the new city yet and are instead staying with her family in the town I didnt really want to move to. I'm fone with our setup temporarily while we search for a house to buy in the larger city, but my wife now is saying she thinks we should just buy a house in our current town where her family lives.
I have explained that I really don't want to live in that town, and we had both agreed that it would only be temporary until we found a place in the larger city. But now I feel a little betrayed because she doesn't feel the same anymore, or perhaps never did. Part of why we decided to move to this particular city was to be closer to her family. Bit now that we're in the same town as them, she doesn't want to move away.
For context and fairness, here are a few things to note:
1) She is working in our current town, with her family, at least for the next 6 months to a year. She may have an opportunity to work in the larger city later down the line, buts thats unknown. One of us is going to have a 40 minute commute. There aren't really any towns in between the two that would work as a compromise.
2) The smaller town with her family is cheaper. Our money will go farther there than in the larger city, which she is concerned about.
3) The state we moved to was high on our list, but it wasn't my top choice. I wanted to move to a different state, which we initially started to look for jobs in, but my wife decided that she wanted to be closer to her family in a different state. I liked that state too, but it was probably my second or third choice.
4) I like her family quite a bit, bit I'd like to live in different town than them. We would be really close to come and visit and vice/versa, but I think a little bit of healthy separation is a good thing. Even though this town is fairly new to both of us, it already feels like we moved into her family's life style/pace, as olposed to exploring our new location on our own and discovering it for ourselves. Again, I like her family, but I'm a little apprehensive about how much we may be hanging out with them since we will be in the same town.
I don't want to be selfish, but I feel lost with all of this. I accepted the job with the idea that we would be living in the larger city and getting the change of pace from the town where we met. I've never lived in larger city and have wanted to have that experience for several years now.
My wife wanted to move closer to family, so it seemed like a win-win. We moved to the same town as her family under the idea that it would be temporary. Now that we're are here and living with her family, she wants to buy a house here and not move to the larger city. I don't want a commute (but neither does she), and I really don't want to live in the town we are currently in.
I dont know what to do or how to approach this. My wife knows how I feel about living here and that I wanted to move to the bigger city to begin with. She thinks I'm not being open minded enough and that we will save money by staying in the same town as her family (which we will). Had I known this would be such an issue, I might not have accepted the job.
I don't know what to do or how I can compromise so that we can both be happy.