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Beth
August 2020

Dinner

Beth, on March 4, 2020 at 9:27 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 16
Is it bad that I was not planning on inviting some friends to the dinner to cut costs just the dance.. $24 a plate sure adds up....

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Latest activity by Jana, on April 15, 2020 at 12:31 PM
  • Kate
    Expert October 2020
    Kate ·
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    I think if they're not invited to the entire event, there's no use in inviting them to just the reception portion. You could really offend some of your friends by doing so

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·
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    I agree with Kate, I would either invite them to the whole event or not at all. If you can't imagine your wedding day without certain people but it isn't in your budget, I'd consider planning a "cake & punch" reception. If you've never heard of it, it's a reception between meal times where you can cut costs by only serving drinks, cake, and maybe some light snacks. Best of luck!

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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    I would agree with the PPs -
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Rockstar March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Tiered weddings are very rude. Invite all guests to the ceremony and reception or cut your guest list.
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  • Katie
    Devoted March 2019
    Katie ·
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    I agree with other comments, this can definitely get confusing and end in hurt feelings. You mention just skipping the dinner portion - does this mean you're considering inviting some guests to the ceremony, NOT dinner, and then return for dancing/reception? This definitely gives me all kinds of bad vibes. Consider other ways to adjust your budget, or plan for an overall smaller guest list are my two best recommendations
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Yes, it’s bad. Guests should be invited to the entire event or none of it.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I just wouldn’t invite them at all.
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Yea I believe in inviting them to all or none
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  • Lena
    Devoted May 2021
    Lena ·
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    That's not ok. Guests should be invited to all or nothing.

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    Super August 2020
    Alex ·
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    That is super rude. You need to either invite them to the whole thing or nothing.

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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    Yes, this is very rude

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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    Agree with the others, if you don't want to host them for dinner, just don't invite them. I'm sure they'd rather not be invited at all than be "second choice" when it comes to who got fully hosted or not.

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
    Andrea ·
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    Yeah, I definitely agree with Jennifer

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  • J
    Expert May 2021
    Jaime ·
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    I'd be super hurt to not be considered good enough to come eat dinner with the other people and be invited afterward. Sounds like you just need to go with a small wedding all together.

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  • B
    Dedicated August 2020
    Bride123 ·
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    I agree -- I would be offended by this scenario. I would not be offended if one of my friends told me, hey we just didn't have the budget or space to invite everyone we wanted to.

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  • J
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    People will be offended. If they can't make the list for the ceremony and meal, don't invite them to a dance. Most weddings include the meal and dance at the same location where one flows into the other.
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