Difficulty with a bridesmaid

Just let her handle it herself. If she isn’t going to book a flight, then she’s going to miss the wedding and that’s on her. Don’t replace her, that’s really rude to whoever you replace her with.

Just talk to her... share your concerns while acknowledging that you know she has probably been swamped with her job as a firefighter. Let her know you are excited for her to be a part of your day. How many bridesmaids do you have? I wouldn't replace her if I had other bridesmaids.. it would add unnecessary stress.

You shouldn't try to find a replacement. That would be really unkind to the person replacing her. If she's going to bail, what will it matter? You will still get married. What if a huge wildfire erupts 2 days before your wedding? Will she be able to leave anyway? I'm sorry you're worried about her attending. That's tough. The day will bring enough stress without focusing on this issue. I would just let it go. She will be there or she won't. I know its frustrating because you helped her purchase things related to the wedding. I would just ask her if she plans on being at the wedding and hope she answers honestly. I'm sorry you're upset over this and I hope it works out!

If she only works in the summer, especially as a wildland firefighter, it's not surprising that she may not be able to come. If she gets called to work, depending upon the location, she won't have access to phone or computer communication for a while. She might not be able to get back to you. I'd just continue with the rest of the planning and enjoy the coming days. If she doesn't show, your wedding will still be beautiful. None of your guests will care if you have uneven sides in the wedding party. Your photographer will know how to pose the group photos so it still looks even.

Don’t try to replace her. Let her handle it. Many yrs ago I was in a wedding & I literally bought my dress 7 days before the wedding - and had it hemmed (that was the only alternation needed) the week of the wedding.