Difficulty Choosing a Date

I would just explain to them that he is leaving and you want to get married before then.

I know plenty of people that have gotten married in 7/8 months. You will be really busy, but it's definitely do able!

Stick up for what you want. My FH and I are pulling our wedding together in about eight months, and we've shockingly had a lot of downtime because I was like a drill seargent with booking vendors when we started. You may not get exactly what you want vendor wise, but we were lucky and got all of our first picks.

October is DEFINITELY doable and is not too soon.

When you put your date into Wedding Wire it will show you a planning checklist on a timeline. If you can secure a venue for that day and everything else on the checklist sounds doable to you (which it probably would, 9 months shouldn't be awful assuming your venue and preferred vendors don't book earlier than that), maybe showing that would help? I've seen timelines as short as 6 months and I totally see how the military puts the pressure on! Maybe make sure everything you agree to is refundable in case anything military gets moved up too.

It's your wedding, you two pick the date you want.
I'm sure everyone will understand in the long run.

Congratulations!

Your mom isn’t the one getting married. Unless she’s paying, the date is none of her concern.

I have been receiving the SAME advice from everyone which is IT IS YOUR WEDDING DAY! if your family to include your mom wants to take part of your special day she and everyone else will get onboard with it!!


Don't let anyone tell you what you should and should not do.

The best way to show your family it's what you truly want is to just do it. I know that can be easily said then done but it's what you need to do in order to quiet any naysayers

Don't move the date. Secure your venue for the date YOU already picked. Book things that are difficult to move. They'll either figure out that they need to get on board or they'll quit trying to convince you to move it.
I hate to say it but I would randomly toss out a different date CLOSER to today, knowing full well we have no plans to change our date, to my mom if she pulled this stunt on top of what I mentioned. Like "Would you rather we change the date to May 23rd of this year?"
It sounds kind of like your mom thinks that she's going to lose you after you're married. Maybe all that's needed is a conversation about expectations for life after you're married.

You don’t need to explain yourself to anyone. Plan your wedding for when you want it

Unless you're asking her to pay, and the date is too soon for her to save up, OR she already has booked some sort of once in a lifetime vacation for that date, I'd say "Hey mom, reserve October 24! We've booked our venue!" Leave it at that-—no room for discussion.

I got engaged on December 19, 2018 and married May 4, 2019. My wedding was everything I wanted and planning didn't feel rushed at all.