Difficult moh

No, that's not how this works. She does not get a say in what she is wearing, as that is for you to decide. This is your wedding, and if she wants to be a part of it, she can suck up her negativity and get with the program.

Of course, be a friend first. Try to reach out to her about life, no wedding talk. You might be unaware of something she is currently going through. Either way, you get to decide what your BMs wear, and they can fall in line and do that, or they can come as guests.

I mean, I wouldn't ever ask a friend to wear something they weren't comfortable in (I'm personally not a fan of the uniform look for this reason--everyone has different preferences, body types, budgets, etc.)

She's your friend, so reaching out to her should just be as you normally do. If you don't feel like you can reach out for whatever reason/anticipating her reaction, I'd definitely reconsider the friendship. Has she always been overly negative? You can kick her out, but realize that it's probably going to be a friendship-ending move.

Since she is your MOH maybe she can find a different style of dress in the same color. This might help avoid some drama.

Sounds like she has a terrible attitude--very sorry you have to deal
with that! You definitely deserve to choose any color you want, but you
probably shouldn't make her wear that dress if she is well endowed in
that area if you know what I mean...If I were to be required wear that
dress as a bridesmaid, then the bride would need to be ok with my thick supportive bra straps prominently showing! Strapless bras just won't cut if for some of us. However, if she is not busty and is just being difficult, then that's another story.

1. Talk to her as a friend and see if there's something else bothering her. Don't bring up the wedding at all.

2. People aren't always going to be the same person they were in college. That's just part of growing up and taking on adult responsibilities. It's especially tough when you have a job that you don't like, but you need.

3. You said that you chose this dress because "the girls really liked this one it compliments their body types and pale skin color." So why shouldn't your MOH have a say in what may or may not look good on her?

That's the dress my ladies chose in the color Ice Blue! beautiful dress. But on to your MOH.... EW! I'm sorry but her attitude is disgusting - that's far from just having your own opinion, she's just trying to be rude and negative. She's clearly bitter about something or just wasn't the right pick for MOH. If you've tried contacting her so much already, I'd find a way to nicely let her know someone else will be taking over her MOH position since she's so far away and doesn't have the time to do all the things a MOH should be doing. Get you someone to stand by you that's nothing but supportive! Best of luck!!!