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Super October 2020

Dietary restrictions

Fmv, on May 28, 2019 at 5:56 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 12
So for our reception we are having a buffet.
2 meats choices, 2 veggies, 2 starches, salad, dolls and the whole shabang basically.
When we toured our venue i had mentioned that my brother is vegan and his wife is vegetarian(they are both in the wedding party), they said they can make a few vegetarian plates for no charge as long as it was just a few.
Well now im thinking my cousins girlfriend is vegetarian...my fsil is gluten free(we are picking a non breaded or fried meat that she can eat)
But i guess im wondering where do you draw the line or am i supposed to ask everyone if they have dietary restrictions?
Also we are having a buffet. So am i supposed to put an insert in our invite or write it on our wedding website so people can plan ahead and know what the meal will be? Or does that open the gate more for people to see what the meal is and ask me for a substitute?
Have you dealt with this? Do you have advice?
Help!

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Latest activity by Rachael, on May 29, 2019 at 12:30 PM
  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Yes you need to ask all guests for dietary restrictions, this is usually done on the RSVP. You don’t need to accommodate if someone just doesn’t like something but you do need to accommodate allergies or thinks like vegetarian/vegan/kosher etc. I would think your caterer could provide a separate meal.
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  • Leah
    Devoted August 2019
    Leah ·
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    Celiac bride with a family of many allergies - definitely would recommend asking! I’ve encountered lots of weddings that don’t and it’s a bit of a bummer to not be able to eat much or I write this in on the side of the RSVP card. We’re asking on our RSVP card for allergies as well as website and then 95% of our food will be gluten-free thanks to our caterer which wasnt explicit and we had to inquire about a few times but they were accommodating!
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  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
    Summerbride77 ·
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    I agree ask about allergies and dietary restrictions and just make sure everyone has something they can eat and that your buffet is really well labeled.
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  • Rachel
    Dedicated October 2021
    Rachel ·
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    I would ask on the RSVP and see how many people have dietary restrictions. If there are quite a few people, I would just make one of the buffet entree options GF and vegan. If its a few people, maybe just ask the caterer to make a special plate for them - there might be an extra charge for this though. Also, there are a LOT of people on weird diets now, so just try to do the best that you can.

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  • A
    Expert June 2019
    Afterallthistime...Always ·
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    Hi, I have celiacs (must be gluten free). I’ve been to weddings where people don’t ask, and I don’t want to be rude by asking on my own. So I end up not eating, and the couple ends up paying for a meal that I can’t eat that is thrown out. Then I leave early to get my own food.
    Please put something on your RSVP advising anyone with dietary restrictions to let you know, write on the back of the card, respond on the website, etc.
    Out of our 80 guests, only 3 have dietary restrictions. People know not to put things they don’t like, only people with true restrictions (allergies, celiacs, lactose intolerant, vegan, vegetarian, etc.) will respond.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    I am a bride with serious food allergies, my family has some allergies (seafood, mushrooms, gluten, diary, soy, peanuts are the current list).
    I put a section for allergies on my RSVPs and asked people in text before I got the RSVPs. I do not want an allergic reaction at my wedding, mine or otherwise!
    It's good to know about vegans or kosher ect that way if a large portion of your guests request vegan stuff you know to change the food ahead of time, or if it's only a few to do specailized meals.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    Please ask on your RSVPs to list any dietary restrictions so you can make sure there's something for everyone to eat Smiley smile

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  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
    Fmv ·
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    Most of the entrees are gluten free luckily except the broasted chicken. So the gluten free people will be fine. There is no vegan entree, so we will be having our venue make a seperate vegetarian plate for them
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  • Expert August 2020
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    If it's a legit dietary restriction I think it's important to keep it in mind but there can be so many of them that it can make it difficult. Worst case scenario, cater more to the allergy affecting the most guests. I think variety is really the key. Buffets seem to be a better choice for food allergies since you can pick and chose.

    My husband and his best friend/best man are both allergic to gluten. My grandpa-in-law, mom, SIL, MOH, and myself all have to eat low-carb due to diabetes. That being said, we are aiming for a MOSTLY low-carb, gluten free menu.

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  • Jessica
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    We are also having a buffet style dinner. We know FHs aunt cant have anything so when we saw her the other day we told her our menu and she said she can have the salads and one of the meats. I have a friend who is GF but shes really good about picking around and eating what she can, which she already said she will be fine. We also have a friend who doesn't do buffet food so we are serving her at the table with everything separate. And FHs brothers girlfriend eats literally nothing and said she will only eat dessert so shes SOL (shes a pain and idc, harsh I know lol) so she will either eat before she comes or just eat a bunch of cake. We are pretty positive no one else has any kind of allergy but on out invites we listed the date and time and all that jazz and then underneath that we just put buffet style dinner and dancing to follow. We did not add anything to our RSVP and would hope that if people had concerns they will reach out to us. The caterer will also have little signs by the food about what it is an if it is GF, vegetarian, vegan and all of that.

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  • J
    Master October 2019
    Jolie ·
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    I put on my website about dietary restrictions and food allergies. I will put this on the details card as well with the invites. People should know this means ACTUAL diets/allergies not "I don't like this food or I don't eat this". Shame, pick what you want from the buffet then lol. We have a buffet too. So except for those diet restrictions (I don't even think we have any) everyone else will do buffet. I am ensuring there are not nuts or green peppers in anything because my mom is allergic to green peppers and a friend is allergic to nuts. This is simple enough to make sure my venue knows this!

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  • R
    Dedicated October 2017
    Rachael ·
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    Just be careful here. Just because they are gluten free doesn't mean they are cooked in a manner that would be safe for someone who has celiacs. For some people cross contamination (either during cooking/swapping utensils, ect.) could be an issue depending on the person's sensativity. It's important to have a conversation with the vendor to make sure they know the gluten free options will be fed to someone with an allergy.


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