Didnt rsvp - But showed up

At my first wedding we had a few people show who said they weren't coming. It was awkward as well but we found space for them.

This is why you always follow up with people who don't RSVP; you can't prevent if they show when they say they won't but you can deal with people who plan to come but forgot to send the reply card.

Honestly, I would probably send them home. They are the rude ones for just showing up.

I would be sooo pissed off but, I’d pay for them anyway ! I am having two people st the door with names of all the guests and they will check them and tell them their seating arrangements. To avoid this... anyone not on the list will be asked to step to the side because they didn’t rsvp and their is no table seating for them. Hoping that this will Cause them embarrassment and they will know. Then after everyone is seated have the caterer set up a table for them! This is soo awful unfortunately it happens more than it should.

If I was paying $135 per person and didn’t have room for them, I’d send them packing.

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She did follow up and got no reply back from her text or no call back from her voicemail and they just showed up...It nice you were able to find space

For $135 per person I’d ask them to leave with no regrets at all.

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I know right, She paid for them but her husband kindly sent them a text and email the next day asking for their money back, 2 out of the 4 paid the 135.

Hubby wasnt having it lol

View Quoted Comment I can understand turning them away, but I would never ask them after the fact to pay the bill. What they did was incredibly rude, but the couple chose to allow them to stay so they are responsible for the cost.

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Yup!

You aren't going to cost me money after I jumped through hoops to follow up with you. We will have someone checking names. At $200pp, I'm not paying any extra. Another option we have is that they can eat a vendor meal with the vendors for an hour and have no access to bars etc, because its a totally different area of the building where they will eat.

Im sorry, but they will be turned around. That is the resoning behind the rsvp, so we know who is coming and are accounted for. I will be doing mines in the next few weeks. ppl have rsvp and have been told that if they did not rsvp, they will not be allowed to come! I have a list with the names of all who did and will be told were they will be seated. I have spent to much time and mo ney planning and arrainging for me to come more out of pocket after i was done with everything.

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Totally agree Katherine, thats exactly what an rsvp is for. Thats what i said when me and my fiance were at the wedding. It was very obvious they were the non rsvp group. I just dont see how hard it is to rsvp, especially if the bride places a pre addressed envelope with a stamp on it inside with the invite. All you need to do is drop it in the mail, how hard is that. Our wedding is in 30 days, i hope this doesnt happen to us. I send out 70 invites and so far i received back 62, my deadline date is this friday.

View Quoted Comment Yes it is very frustrating. That should be one less thing you should have to worry about, when is a simple step. Our wedding is also in 30 days we had sent out about 50 invites, we got back all 50 plus some. I had to close my list early since some that didnt recieve invites were just planning on coming with out notice. Rude but true story. We had to put a stop to it right there and then. I dont think ppl realize the time, stress and money this takes to do this, for me to have to worry on my day about were these unaccounted ppl are going to be at.

At my first wedding ex-H's stepmom randomly brought her sister. We had two no-shows so it worked out but her name was scribbled in sharpie on the seating chart and it was really obvious she had been jammed in. Honestly, had the stepmom just asked we would have been happy to invite her sister, but instead she just brought her.

That is so rude. They were bold for doing that. Smh

My FH is adamant that people that dont rsvp will not get in. Our guest list will top at 40 so we shouldnt have a problem.

First of all...I won't have that issue...rude or not - I will have a RSVP name list at the door of my reception! And I stated an important note about this on the Reception Cards that I put in the Invitation suite. I refuse to deal with guests who feel like they don't have to RSVP!!!

I wouldn't pay for them. the venue has couches over looking the river, they can sit there and have some drinks and feel free to some desert and cake, but they are not getting a dinner or a seat. sorry, if you dont rsvp after i hunt you down or say you are not going and then show up that's unacceptable.

View Quoted Comment Exactly this!!! You take the high road and pay for them but I would never make them pay you back. Wow!

Wow I would never show up to something like a wedding after not RSVPing!

Honestly, I probably wouldn’t even have anyone make room for them. I’ll be sending out save the dates and invitations, and I’ll call those who don’t rsvp by the date! If they can’t respond to that, I’m not having people go out of their way for them.🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️