Did you write your officiant script?

I just realized how rare our coupling is.

We have a Rabbi, I’m Jewish and my Fiancé is from a Mormon background. I wrote up everything personally that the Rabbi will be saying because we didn’t want it sounding religious but more spiritual.

We are also an interfaith couple. I'm catholic and FH is Buddhist. Our officiant sent us samples of scripts that we can choose and personalize. Ours will definitely be a non religious ceremony.

Our officiant sent us several examples for each section of the ceremony; opening remarks, exchange of rings, etc. and we will choose the options that we like best.

We wrote our script!! Our officiant is a friend who got ordained just for our ceremony, so I told him I’d do it so he didn’t have to worry and we knew we’d like it. He has edited it a little, just so he feels like it will flow better for him, but it’s still essentially the same.

We wrote our ceremony script. My FIL will be our officiant and he came up with a script that we took and edited it to what we would like. My FIL is used to doing more traditional, church weddings and we're not getting married in a church. So he just told us to tell him what to say lol.

We are not religious nor traditional and my officiant sent us two options. I completely rewrote her script and she took no offense 😏
Frame it nicely, it's your day and make sure you get what you want!

I wrote the script for our ceremony. The officiant sent pages of different kinds of ceremony scripts to us and I took the parts I liked from several different ones. I also did a quick Google search and added in parts from there as well.

I am an officiant and I appreciate when a couple has a lot of input, but I write each ceremony individually. Your officiant may use one or two scripts that they drop personal info into. This works for many so they feel familiar with their words and the flow. I would recommend discussing your notes with them and see how open they are to making the changes you want. If you truly believe you can word smith it better, ask them how they feel about it.

And I don't think your coupling is that rare. One of my favorites was a Pagan/Jewish wedding that I had to learn some Hebrew for. My FW and I are combining our Pagan and Christian beliefs in our ceremony as well.

I would write notes on his script about what you like and don't like, then talk to him about possible changes.

I definitely edited the heck out of the one my officiant gave

I wrote ours and Id be happy to share it if you send me your email.

I am religious (non denom christian), my husband isn't really but still attends church with me. Our family is a mixed bag... My dads family is catholic but they only attend on holidays, my moms non denominational christian but her dad is a pastor, my fh's family isn't religious, my cousins are Lutheran etc etc

We chose to write our vows and then ours said he just wanted to add in a prayer for our marriage and i wanted him to recite corinthians love is not proud it is kind etc...bc i love that vs but other then that after our vows hes just having us say the normal i take thee etc and kiss the bride thats all were doing simple and easy hope that helps

I did not. My officiant has done 100s of weddings, she knows what she's doing.

We are writing ours. But our Best Man and my grandma are marrying us, so neither have experience doing that.

We chose our reading and our vows, other than that - as long as it stays non-religious we are pretty much going to let our officiant do what she does best!

I'm in the process of writing our script. I feel like since its our wedding it should be written exactly how we want it.

I wrote the whole thing.

I would just discuss it with him!