Did people not even give you a card?

I see where you’re coming from. That is strange and rude in my opinion as well. If I get invited to a party, especially a wedding, there’s no way I’d come empty handed. There is the chance that they forgot or plan on giving you a card afterwards so don’t assume the worst just yet! I’m sure you’ll get some comments saying oh you can’t expect everyone to get you a gift and they’re just there to celebrate your love, etc but in reality you know the couple spent lots of money on their wedding and a card/gift is the norm. On a side note I hope your wedding was amazing and you had a wonderful time!

I think it’s a matter of manners, not class. I wouldn’t go to a wedding empty handed, but some people don’t know or care about proper etiquette. I wouldn’t get hung up on it.

I totally agree! I’d NEVER go to a wedding empty handed. Whether I was super close to the person or not, any wedding I’ve attended included a card + a gift. However, as the above people said... there is no point on getting hung up on it either. Though, if they are considered good friends of yours, it could be worth a shot just asking them. Maybe a gift just wasn’t in their budget. Who knows, but it’s good not to assume the worst & just ask! ❤️

I understand exactly how you feel. We had several people at our wedding that didn’t give us a card and it was not about the gift or money because we didn’t want any of that but I’m shocked that people didn’t at least bring a card. We had someone worth millions at our wedding and he didn’t even give a card.

I'm sure it happens all the time, and definitely expect it to happen at mine. I mean, c'mon people, most of us don't have tons of discretionary cash, but go to Kroger and get the 99cent card and add sincere well wishes + a $5 starbucks or McD gift card (whatever is their thing).

I agree this is generally pretty unusual (and like pp's have said has a lot to do with manners and the guests' prior experience/knowledge about what's appropriate at a wedding), but some of daughter & SIL's "friend group" guests (mid-20's, just out of college) did not give them anything, including a card. I think it was mostly the guys without significant women in their lives? I honestly think they were probably just pretty clueless about weddings (there were a couple who were texting the groom the morning of the wedding asking what they should wear because they had absolutely no idea, despite info on the wedding website and the fact that the venue was a country club...). Daughter and SIL's was only the second wedding among that large group of friends, and the first wedding was very casual and planned quickly. So, I wouldn't be surprised if some of them had no idea it's typical to bring at least a card. Also, with wedding party members, I think there might legitimately be a sense that, in some cases, they've already "done a LOT" (wedding attire, perhaps travel and/or planning/hosting bachelor/bachelorette activities, or a shower), so they don't feel anything else is needed. Roll with it! When they get married they'll suddenly realize they kind of missed the boat....

I can understand guests in the wedding party because they have extra expenses (I gave a gift when a BM but have at least given a card if money was too tight). But it is weird to me how many guests DON’T bring anything to a wedding. Only about 1/2 brought cards/gifts for our local reception (even though we provided an open bar, plated dinner, live band & dessert), so I thought maybe guests only bring gifts if there’s a ceremony? But I’ve read here too there are a lot of guests who go to a wedding empty-handed. 🤷‍♀️

Yes for sure. I had friends not give me anything at all. But I guess the point is you're inviting them to attend and them joining in the festivities is good enough

Are you sure there names was not included in a different card. When times are tough we put all our names on one card lol. Aunt uncle dad mom brother sister lol. Hey some people are barley making it.

i wouldn’t dwell on it, I think the best thing is that they showed up and celebrated with you both to celebrate. I’m pretty sure if you but them on blast they would be embarrassed.

We had plenty of people who do that.

While it's nice when people do, the point is their presence, not presents and/or cards.

We had a few guests (some in the wedding party) that didn't give a card or anything. The best man does a ton of work for a wedding, so I can easily see how it would slip his mind. Our best man forgot to give us a card (he gave us a very sweet gift a few weeks before the wedding) but he did a TON with the bachelor party & gave an amazing speech so obviously that didn't bother us at all. We didn't have a wedding for cards or gifts, we were 100% aware not all our guests could afford to give us gifts.

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This is how i feel. ALL of our guests are traveling so i expect NO gifts what so ever. like you said, i'm not doing it for gifts. I'm doing it to celebrate us! And i did forget to give my cousin a gift when i was her BM, but she wasn't upset. *oopsy*. and i certainly wouldn't ask for a gift from either bridal party since they spent so much money on attire/travel/bach parties.

Gifts are never required, nor are cards. They likely spent plenty of money bridal party attire, hotels, showers, etc. I budget a certain amount per wedding. I think you need to get over it.