Jennifer
Dedicated July 2021

Did our gift go missing?

Jennifer, on November 29, 2021 at 10:58 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6
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We went to a wedding on 11/5 and brought a physical gift, along with a card and check that was inside the bag. We had put the the gift on the card table, which had started outside but then cocktail hour got moved inside. I noticed where the card box ended up once it was moved, but I never saw the couple physical gifts that were on the table again.

At first I was like ok I'll just keep an eye on our bank account, we'll know they actually got the gift when the check is cashed. Now it's been a little over three weeks and there has been no sign that the bag actually made it to them.

Am I being overly concerned or should I give it a little more time before I get too worried that it didn't make it?

Another thing is, neither my nor my husbands know how to even word the question asking if they received it. Anyone have any advice?

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Latest activity by Allie, on November 30, 2021 at 9:36 AM
  • Samantha
    Rockstar May 2022
    Samantha ·
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    That is concerning moreso that your check could be in the wrong hands. I would just be honest with them, and say "hey we just wanted to make sure you received our gift, as the check hasn't cashed from our account". Then you will know if you need to stoppay it or maybe they just got busy with post-wedding stuff.

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  • Ashley
    Savvy November 2022
    Ashley ·
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    I agree with above and would definitely check with them to see if they received your gift. Just let them know you noticed everything got moved from one location to another and wanted to ensure it didn't end up in the wrong hands. Especially if the check has not been cashed yet.

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  • Samantha
    Expert August 2022
    Samantha ·
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    One thing to keep in mind is that they may have received a number of checks and have probably been a little busy post-wedding. I think it's a good idea to nudge them, but not necessarily time to worry too much yet.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    I’d give it a whole month before reaching out, and then just ask if they received it. Some couples are slow to cash checks, especially if they went on a honeymoon right away, and then playing catch up at work. I’ve seen enough people ask about waiting to cash checks til after they’ve written thank you cards to know that’s a thing, even though in my world I know I should cash checks ASAP! But, not everyone does
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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated July 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    That’s what I was wondering if I was worrying too early since it hasn’t been a month yet. I’m not sure how long most people wait before cashing them, we waited 2 days lol. And it’s been so long since I’ve been to a wedding I can’t remember how long it took.
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  • Allie
    VIP November 2021
    Allie ·
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    One thing I didn’t realize…if you wrote the check as “Mr. and Mrs. New Last Name,” they can’t cash the check until the name change is legal at most banks. We have a stack of checks we can’t cash yet because of this. I told both sides of the family to let people know and I’ve told the people who have asked us. So if you filled the check out that way, that may be why it’s not cashed yet.
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