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Did i Make the Wrong Decision?

Cali, on September 16, 2020 at 12:28 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 18
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Hey Guys,


I am started to panic and I am scared I made the wrong choice when buying a dress. I am usually a huge thinker and like to sleep on major decisions, but the day I bought my dress I said yes without hesitation and I am scared that was a mistake because now I cant stop thinking about the first dress I loved.

I went to a total of 4 bridal salons. At the second store, I had everyone I needed with me and the first dress I tried on I was ecstatic about - however, I wanted to try on a few more to be sure. At the end of the appointment, I came back to the dress, put a veil on and bawled my eyes out - it was so real, so beautiful, and the song we will be getting married to was playing like it was a sign. BUT, as I mentioned, I needed to take a night to think about it. In the back of my head I wasn't completely satisfied with the top - It was a sweetheart neckline like I wanted, but I was hoping for a deeper V or a little more bling.

After going home I couldn't stop thinking about 2 other specific gowns I had been looking at since I got engaged and became determine to try them on so I made appointments for the following weekend. The first appointment was a bust - they had told me they had the dress I wanted to try in stock, but when I got there it was a completely different dress. Oh well, I moved on.

When arriving at the final salon, I knew it was either going to be the first dress I cried over, or the one I had come here to try on. I had seen enough to know what I wanted. When I put on the dress I was excited - I felt like a princess. I could barely contain my joy as I walked out to show my mom and sister. My mom started bawling right away and I shed a tear or two (but nothing like the first dress). My sister also mentioned she liked it more as well because it felt more "bridal" and not just like a "pretty white dress" to her.

I bought the dress from the last salon and was excited. However, that same night I started to question it - was it the right dress? Did I make the right decision? Should I have taken a day to think about it?

Now, when I look at the two dresses, my stomach curls. I am scared I bought the wrong one. But is it because the experience of the shop wasn't quite the same as the first one (only my mom and sister came with me and "my song" wasn't playing) and that I knew my sister was tired of dress shopping with me so I made a quick decision? Or am I really heartbroken over the first dress?

Now when I look back at the two dresses, I LOVE the top of the dress I bought, and the bottom of it is still ok (doesn't help that the dress was too big) but I also LOVE the bottom of the first dress I bought. There is a no return/refund policy. Do I just suck it up?


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Latest activity by Cali, on September 17, 2020 at 1:47 PM
  • Chrysta
    Rockstar November 2022
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    Is purchasing both of them an option? You could wear one for the ceremony and the other for the reception.
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  • Margaret
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    You have to follow your gut and go with what your heart says. If the dress you bought isn't the dress, then change it.

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  • Cali
    Savvy August 2021
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    I only budgeted 1500 for my dress and spent that on my first one so I don’t know how I would make up the money for the other one otherwise that is a great idea!
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  • Madelin
    Devoted November 2020
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    Since there is a no refund/return policy I suggest sticking with it... unless you can afford to get the first one. To me, it sounds like you found the one the first time. What is most important is what you think and how you feel in it, not what anyone else thinks. I am a curvier woman (always have been) and the dresses that my mom and friends wanted me to have just weren't me. They were basic. I wanted a dress that would be unlike any most people see. Like a dress that they will never stop talking about. I tried on multiple dresses my first time and I had several that were "the one" until I tried on the next one. It wasn't until I tried on the actual one that I knew it was it. I just didn't want to get out of it. I loved everything about it and it felt like it was me in dress form. But, I started to have doubt after I bought it. But I know now that the doubts aren't because I tried one on better (because I didn't in my opinion) it was my own insecurities. Of whether I made the decision too quickly, will I still love it on my wedding day, etc.
    Do what is best for YOU. It is your day, and you're the one that's gonna wear it.
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  • Cali
    Savvy August 2021
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    That’s what I’m scared of - I almost want to change it now but can’t afford to. Plus, I would want to alter the top of the first one a little which is even pricier 😔
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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
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    You could try to sell it, but I'll be honest, you won't get full price for it. If the 2nd one is the one you want, then I'd find a way to purchase it (not finance it).

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  • Cali
    Savvy August 2021
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    Thank you so much for this. I think I found it the first time too but I can’t afford it now 😔 I’m hoping once the one I ordered comes in in my size I will feel better about it. This is also similar to what my fiancé said- I didn’t tell home anything about the dresses except for how much I was freaking out. He said he thinks it’s because I made a quick decision but not because it is the wrong dress. Guess we will see once it comes in!
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  • CountryBride
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    Could we see the dresses that you are questioning sounds like you picked a good one with the 2nd one

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  • Ali
    Expert March 2021
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    I'm having some dress doubt. Not because I think I made the wrong decision but just wish I wouldn't have jumped the gun so fast as I had an appointment with a bridal shop I loved a couple days later. When I got the dress in, I knew it was going to be tight as they told me it would. Now, I'm scared I won't fit in it as my wedding is in March and I am wishing I would have gone with a dress that was not so tight and a little bit more forgiving in the top. But I love my dress just really stressed. I can understand where you are coming from but I think you may have jumped the gun a little bit. However, you should be happy in your dress on your day.
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  • Cali
    Savvy August 2021
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    Did i Make the Wrong Decision? 1
    Did i Make the Wrong Decision? 2

    Here is the first one ^

    And the second is below :

    Did i Make the Wrong Decision? 3
    Did i Make the Wrong Decision? 4
    Ignore the veil **
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  • Chrysta
    Rockstar November 2022
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    Oh wow, they are soooooooo similar!! Honestly, I had to look at them multiple times to even see what was different about them. They look almost identical on you. I think you are just having some panic over making the decision so quickly, when you are usually the type to take time and think things through. I am all about encouraging people to follow their gut and purchase a second dress if needed, but there’s no way I could in good conscience encourage someone to spend that much money on a second dress when it looks almost the same as the one they already purchased. Not to mention, you didn’t even love the first dress as it is, you would have to spend even more money to alter the top of it (and there are a lot of horror stories of brides who tried to alter the design of their dress!). The second dress looks beautiful on you exactly the way it is, no changes necessary. I think you picked the right dress!! 💕
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    I agree with this 100%. Honestly, they are almost the same. Unless you can afford to lose what you spent on the one you’ve already paid for, I’d just “decide” to love the one you bought. Based on reading many dress regret posts, you’re going to stress yourself out and are unlikely to sell the dress for anything close to what you paid for it. You look gorgeous and happy in the dress you purchased! Good luck! Smiley heart
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  • CountryBride
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    They look very similar I honestly like number 1 better but you look happier in number 2

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  • Cassandra
    Devoted September 2021
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    They are both so gorgeous! I think you are just torn because they both look so gorgeous on you!
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  • Natalie
    Expert November 2020
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    I agree that they both look very similar! I think you’ll be happy to have the second one with the more detailed top. The top of the dress is the part that will be most-captured in photos!
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  • A
    Devoted October 2021
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    Both look very similar, but I think you made the right decision with the second one. The top is beautiful on that one and looks gorgeous on you!

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  • Cali
    Savvy August 2021
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    Thank you! These sort of confirmations are making me feel so much better about my choice!
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  • Cali
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    Thank you! Thats also something I didn’t think about - that the top is most captured. Good thing I bought the one with a detailed top !
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