Maybe i just want vent. My mom is very controlling. Out of all her 8 children, I have been the one who would drop everything and be there for her. You can say my fh was my first real bf. I avoided getting into relationships cause i knew how she would act. Even with friends she would say i love them more than her, just to give you an idea. My mom and I have a hard time getting along cause she will insult me in front of people. She also likes to provoke fights. I'm not saying i'm and angel, but i try to stay quiet until i explode and then she tells people i'm mean to her.
My fh has been the first person that i felt has cared about me. When he ask what i want to do or just things in general, it freaks me out cause i'm not used to it. Well my mom speaks Spanish and my fh does not. He understands some words but not a lot. My mom knows this and will insult him in front of people. I have wanted to talk to her about her being more respectful to him but I was scared, cause i knew she would act like she does nothing wrong and it's all him. Well today, she made a comment and i couldn't take it anymore. I told her she has to respect him, She told me shes not respecting a little kid. I told her she does cause hes going to be my husband. She said shes not and he has to respect her. We went back and forth but didn't reach any common ground. All she said is she wasn't going to talk to "that little boy" anymore. I know i shouldn't care but i feel like when she sees him, she won't care for him or acknowledge him. I don't know how i'm going to handle her saying she wont come to the wedding, which is weird cause i wanted to elope lol,
I have this huge guilt right now. I know i have to defend him as his future wife. But my mom is making me feel bad for doing so. My fh has defended me many times to his family when it was about me. I just need advice maybe some comforting words. Thanks for reading.
Also, should give my fh the heads up. I don't want him to hate my family, even he has questioned many times if my mom even likes him. I don't want to make this situation worst.