Just curious if anyone else has ever had to do this and if it's weird to... here are the situations we're having:
1) Our venue has guests choose their meals when they arrive at the wedding... the choices are chicken or steak. They will do a vegetarian option, but ONLY if it's requested in advance for a particular guest. We put this info on our details card, and in THREE different places on our website. Not a single person has reached out to me saying that they will need a vegetarian meal, but I know for a fact that at least 4 of our guests are vegetarians. When I reached out to these 4, they were thanking me profusely for checking with them.
Luckily we knew about these 4 people. But out of our other 94 guests, I'm concerned we may have more vegetarians that I don't know about. And I really don't want people showing up to the wedding, being given the options of chicken or steak, them saying they're vegetarian, and being told sorry, I guess you're not eating (even though it would be their fault if that happened, I still don't want that to happen to anyone!)
2) Per etiquette, I put the start time of our ceremony on the invitations (12pm). I also listed on the website to please arrive no later than 11:45am to be seated, because the doors will be closed and the ceremony will begin at precisely 12pm.
Apparently many people don't know etiquette, and don't look at the website. My mom talked to several of her friends who were all SHOCKED to hear that they would've been shut out of the ceremony had they shown up at noon, or at 12:05 because "every wedding I've ever been to, the bride always keeps us waiting AT LEAST a half hour!" *Eye roll.* I really don't want to have tons of people missing the ceremony because they're late and "didn't realize" that it starts at the time listed on the invitation, but I also don't want to delay my ceremony and keep people waiting because some people are late!
Would it be super weird to send out emails and/or texts to all our guests at this point (10 days before the wedding) just to check if they have any food allergies or need a vegetarian meal, and to also clarify that the ceremony actually starts at noon and they should be there well beforehand?
Have any of you done a "last minute reach out" to your guests, or have any of you been to a wedding where the couple did something like this? I feel like it is really necessary for us to do it for both these reasons, but I just feel so weird about it lol.
