Did anyone decide not to register?

We were in the same boat. We didn't want to register either but people kept asking about gifts. We decided to register at Pottery Barn and William Sonoma for nicer upgrades of things we already owned. New dishes, higher end pots and pans, etc... Things you want but you wouldn't buy for yourself.

We're not registered anywhere. I don't have any regrets. We live in a small apartment in Manhattan, aren't interested in upgrading stuff, and will be gracious if anyone gives us any sort of gift.

Not registering is fine - but be prepared for people to get you things you really don't want. A registry isn't asking for stuff, its providing a guide of things you would like to receive. If people really want to give you a physical gift (and much of the older generation does), they will give you one whether you have a registry or not.

My only experience with this is with my MOH. She and her husband decided to only do a honeyfund registry. Only a handful of people gave to their honeyfund, and no one else gave anything - cash or gift. She also got asked a hundred times where they were registered, why they weren't registered, and it caused problems with her MIL, etc. I think registering for a few things would have made the process a lot easier for everyone.

Thank you so much for your advice and sharing your registry decisions everyone!

We are not registering. We just combined 2 established households so we don't need anything. We both have very good jobs and can afford to upgrade stuff if/when we want to. I have had a few people ask if we were and if we were having a shower, but I just tell them that while we are grateful for the thought, the only gift we want if for them to share the day with us.

I'm not having a shower so there is no need for us to register. Where I am, people don't bring physical gifts to weddings.

Registering isn't "telling" people to get you gifts. It's giving them a guide as to what you would like, if they would like to get you something.

I'm guessing you tell your FH or family what you'd like or give them suggestions for what you'd like for Christmas/whatever holiday you celebrate or your birthday. Same concept.

If you're not having a shower and don't want to register, then that's fine. But if you know someone is throwing you a shower and you don't register.... well, that's how you end up with 13 crimson salad plates and a garden gnome from Aunt Sally.

Christy, Hahaha no, def not looking to set up a honeyfund! Thank you for sharing where you registered!

We made a small registry with things we would like to have but don't want to buy ourselves. If we don't get anything we won't be disappointed that's for sure. But some people like to give gifts and this way at least you can help them out.

Registering isn't asking for gifts, it's just a wishlist so that guests don't buy the same things or things you don't want. You definitely don't have to register, but you shouldn't feel bad about it!

We are not registering. We have 25 guests on our list currently and most of them are immediate family. I also politely declined a shower.

Registering for a few items probably wouldn't have killed us, but we based our decision on the following: we live in a 500 sq ft house with minimal storage, we are frugal savers so any time we need or want something, we can just buy it, I was uncomfortable with the whole idea of a shower because attention, and we are well aware of our closest family members' financial situations. When asked, I say, "we are not registered; the gift is you celebrating with us on our wedding day." We certainly aren't expecting gifts of any kind but we will accept them if they are offered.

We ended up registering. We have a few things we could upgrade after being together for six years. Granted I doubt we'll use most of it right away because the stuff we have is in pretty good condition. We kept it small because we have a one-bed apartment. We've registered for some fun stuff that we'd never buy on our own. I'm generally a I don't want gifts type of person. One year I got a egg sandwich maker from FH's grandma. Every year since then I've been sure to give a list of suggestions when asked.

We didn't register because 1) we didn't want anything (nor did we want to bother looking for things for people to gift), 2) we wanted money and 3) our guests will 99% give us cash anyways so it was not worth the effort.

In the end we did not have a registry or anything and we got money as gifts.

We did have a few guests ask where we were registered and we just told them we did not expect any gifts etc etc. And they gave us cash.

We made a small registry to upgrade some house stuff (we bought our house a year ago) and then registered for some fun stuff like cards against humanity.

If I was having a larger wedding, I would have registered for upgrades or things we want but wouldn't really buy ourselves or aren't a huge priority. But, we are having a small 20 person wedding, so I didn't see the need to register as, in theory, no one should be getting us gifts and we really don't need/want anything. I've had a few non-invited friends give me the side eye for not registering, but it seemed silly for that small of a wedding (destination and we've asked our guests to not get us anything). I am not going to be surprised if we end up with some stuff we don't want/need though from non-invited friends. We did have some non-invited friends give us a few bottles of really nice wine, so I was totally okay with that!

I didn't register, but I also passed on a bridal shower.

If you want the shower, you should probably register.

Most of my guests gave a cash or check gift.

We are doing a destination wedding and having 60+ people come. We see them coming to our wedding as a huge gift! So we are not doing a registry.

We did a very small registry. We didn't want to but my mom convinced to do it- I think we had 10 items. We got all of them. Some people prefer to give gift instead of $. All we wanted was to have people show up to our wedding

ETA I didn't have a shower- there was no need to get gifts.

@cheval.... and what is wrong with the garden gnome LOL sorry I had too my name always seems to be used in examples I think it stems from the books we learned to read from when I was a kid.... "see sally run sally can run fast". LOL