Did anyone bring any children to your adult-only wedding?

If they rsvp with children, simply reach out and say you can’t accommodate the children and the invite is only for those listed on the envelope. As far as people just showing up with children, I’d hire a day of coordinator and have them let people know at the door that children can’t be accommodated.

Realistically, you either ask them to leave (probably won't go over well) via bouncer, coordinator, whomever, or you just deal with it and when people ask just say their child/ren were not invited and they went against the rule.

That's really all you can do

I'm very lucky - when I mentioned that I was worried about this to my fiance he told me he'd tell them to leave before I arrived, and he would too!

You could also inform the ceremony venue and have someone on the staff tell them to leave, or as the others have said, a bouncer, coordinator or even a family member/friend step up for you!

No, no one did. We did have 1 person miss the wedding because their childcare fell through though

My sister in law didn't believe us when we said no children. She has a very active 2 year old that she brought to the rehearsal who was running around the entire time. The problem is, our venue was on a Llama farm. There were electric fences and a large pond next to/near our ceremony and reception site. At one point during rehearsal, everyone noticed at seemingly the same time that the little one was about to grab the electric fence to get to the llamas, and her husband, my husband's brother, had to sprint over and catch her before she did.


My husband and I told her that there's just too many hazards, we said if our niece can't be watched closely all day, she simply can't be there. My sister in law huffed and puffed and said "well who's supposed to hold her, because I'm not going to" and stormed off.
Arrived the next day with no child in tow, and told that side of the family that I didn't want her daughter there which caused some coldness that day, but I wasn't thrilled about no one watching a 2 year old around a pond on my wedding day, either.

I would have made mine adults only if I didn’t have 6 nieces and nephews but I couldn’t get out of inviting them. In the end I had 10 kids bc I figured it was only fair to let hubby’s step nieces and nephews come too. No we did not have unexpected kids. Lots of my friends who have kids didn’t end up coming because they felt concerned traveling during covid etc. I would be so shocked if someone brought an unexpected child because you have to pay for and select adult and kid food separately (if it’s plated dinner) and bringing an unexpected guest is just so rude.

View Quoted Comment

That is absolutely CRAZY! I can't believe someone would be so entitled to think you were joking about no kids, and on top of that, not even take responsibility for watching over them. Like for heaven's sake it's your own toddler!

That's what I'm so worried about - family members thinking the rule doesn't apply to them when it was literally made FOR them!