Destination Weekday Wedding

It's not necessarily rude, but it does put quite the burden on your guests. I wouldn't expect a big turnout.

You can have your wedding whenever you like, but expect that fewer people will accept if it's on a weekday. Especially if it's during the school year and you have guests with families. I personally would not fly out to a wedding scheduled for Monday unless I were very very close with the couple. It would have to be a sister or best friend. Wouldn't do it for a cousin.

Is Friday an option?

Maybe you could save money and put off the date until you can afford to do it on a weekend

IMHO, that is WAY too much to ask of your guests. Destination weddings are already pretty hard on guests, and then to do it on a weekday too strikes me as far over the line. Expect it to only be immediate family, and for them not to be happy about it (even if they are polite enough not to say it to your face.)

Lindsey O, that is what I thought as well. Would it be better to have a Sunday wedding, or does that incur similar problems?

ETA: Future, Friday and Saturday nights are the most expensive options, so if we went that route we'd be pushing the date back.

I would love to be at your wedding. FH and I were up there last summer and completely fell in love with the island. Your wedding photos are going to be gorgeous.

I do agree that fewer people might be able to make it though.

How far are people traveling?

Sunday weddings are fairly common and more acceptable. For a DW most people are going to have to take at least one day off work, so in that case they would probably miss Monday instead of Friday.

Be realistic about your expectations for attendees to a destination wedding. No matter when it is, you you will have more declines than you would for a local wedding

It's totally up to you but make sure a week day is a date your close family can make. Most likely your attendance will be limited but you at least want to be sure your close family is ok with that.

@Lindsey, my family is from the Cleveland area while FH has family coming from CO, AL, VT, and MS.

All of the major VIPs, (parents, grandparents, siblings) are fine with a weekday, but I would love for more of our close friends to make it. I think the weekend date might be worth it.

ETA: KM, my family has been vacationing on the Island since my mother was young, so I grew up going there for a few weeks in the summer. I have been in love with the Island for as long as I can remember! I'm so glad you love it there

Sunday is probably fine, especially if you're having a rehearsal on Saturday.

I'd say Sunday would be better.

I'm from Cleveland, and it's a pretty far drive but I'd probably do it for a Sunday wedding and just take off Monday- instead of making them have to take off Monday and Tuesday.

Thank you all so much! I will talk to FH about Sunday, that seems like the best compromise. I truly appreciate the advice.

I am in the minority here but I wouldn't do a DW any day of the week. I understand it's beautiful, but the time and money it would cost to go to a place I didn't choose would make it pretty low on my priority list.

@Celia, we aren't expecting a huge turnout, because like you said, we are requesting guests to go spend their money at a place they didn't choose.

We are also doing a destination wedding, this August in Puerto Rico and ours is on a Monday. The way our friends & family see it "we're on vacation anyways, so why does the day matter?"

Since it is a destination wedding, you will have a small turnout. If you do it on a weekday, you will have an even smaller turnout. If you are okay with that, then have your wedding on a Monday. It is up to you what is most important.