Destination Weddings and Guests( Rant coming)

Frankly, I'm surprised there are any people at all willing to travel for a destination vow renewal.

I'm sorry you're disappointed, but I think it is a super common thing that happens - people are theoretically ok with spending money on X, but when it comes time to actually book anything, they get shy. Which is totally fine and their choice. Also, if you're really not getting married til March 2021 there's no way a lot of people will even know what they are doing/what vacation time they will have, etc. and not be able to book yet (I would never plan a vacation that far in advance....you just don't know).

I wouldn't worry! It sounds like you gave notice and talked to a lot of guests, which is very nice. I'd still send save the dates out a year in advance with all that information and whoever can make it will, and you won't have to worry about the rest

View Quoted Comment Actually you’d be surprised I’m not sure if it’s just my friends but I’ve been to two DW vow renewals this year alone and one had over 100 guests😱 I completely understand if that was was the feedback I’m getting but it’s not, it’s the budget I let them dictate. Hopefully it’ll all pan out in the end! It’s already booked so not much I can do

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Wow!!! That is super surprising to me, but great for you and your friend group!

I think there's not much you can do other than send the STD's/invites and hope that people get more serious about it. Be disappointed, rant to your H over a glass of wine tonight and then move on

View Quoted Comment Yeah I’m trying to be considerate sent the STD out at the 18month mark out of an abundance of care. You’re right, I’ll let the chips fall where they may!🤷🏽‍♀️

I had a DW.


Get out of people's wallets. What you think is reasonable might not be for others. I get this sucks but in no way are your guests at fault.

View Quoted Comment I’m not in anyone’s wallets, and I never blamed my guest or put them at fault. As I mentioned I completely understand the additional costs may not be for everyone my frustration is at asking people specific questions to determine a price point, making decisions based on that feedback and then hearing after the fact that they were being completely forthcoming.

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We had 80 at our DW in south florida. My biggest advice is try to consider your guests as much as you can but then at the end of the day do what you need to do. Ex. Our hotel was really expensive per night and that's where most stayed but we gave suggestions for other, less expensive, hotels nearby. Which some of our guests did utilize.