Destination Weddings and Bridal Showers

If someone decides to host a bridal shower for you, I think you should definitely enjoy every minute of it!!

I think you did post it already...I recognize this thread.

But yes, so long as someone offers to throw you a shower and the only guests invited to the shower are also on your wedding guest list, it would be fine to have a shower.

Although it's probably not a breach of etiquette, I wouldn't feel comfortable asking guests who are already spending thousands to attend my wedding, to come to a shower and give me another gift. I would decline the offer to host and suggest a brunch or luncheon (non- gift giving events) instead.

It's fine to have a shower if someone offers to throw one for you. We are also having a DW in Cabo. We decided that we did not want a shower because we did not feel comfortable asking people to spend so much to attend and then also ask them to spend more on a gift. But, my bridesmaids gave decided to throw a bbq instead. It's coed and just a time for people to hang out before the wedding. That's another option to suggest if you are not comfortable with having a shower. Either way, only people invited to the DW should be invited.

I had a destination wedding and didn't have one which I regret. My mom passed away 7 months before the wedding, I had told her I didn't know if I should have one because people were already spending so much money on the wedding, then she convinced me that we would have a small brunch with the women local to us with no gifts and I thought that was a great idea. Unfortunately since she passed no one else planned one for me and I obviously wasn't going to plan my own. But yea that's what I would recommend, something small with no gifts. Sorry if I ranted on a little just thought those details were needed to best understand my opinion on the subject.

Totally with you @muriel j. I feel the same way

Technically you shouldn't invite anyone to a shower that isn't invited to the wedding. If you only include those who are invited to and attending your DW, you should probably forego it in favor of a non-gift brunch as PPs suggested. People paying to go to Cabo may not be able to swing getting you a shower gift on top of travel and a wedding gift.

I have a follow-up question. What if many of the invited guests can't make it to the DW? I'm against the wall on having a registry because I don't want guest who will attend to feel like they have to buy a gift... but I know that many people will not be able to make it and may want the option to purchase a gift instead. We don't care for gifts and have everything that we need but people are already asking where are we registered...

Make a small registry for those people. Nothing wrong with that!