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June 2019

Destination wedding/honeymoon alone time...is it possible with guests?

Cathy, on March 7, 2019 at 12:07 PM Posted in Honeymoon 0 13
My daughter is having a destination wedding/honeymoon. She is concerned that her guests, who will be staying from 4-6 days, won't allow her and her new husband to have any "alone time" to enjoy the island and the resort. These friends frequently go to her house to party and they all enjoy hanging out. How do we send the message that this is a Honeymoon and that private time should be respected; that the wedding couple is not there to entertain all the guests?

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Latest activity by Alexandra , on March 8, 2019 at 9:40 AM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    Can they go stay at a different resort for the honeymoon portion? While it isn’t required that they entertain everyone the whole time, people expecting to spend time with them when they’ve spent thousands to attend the wedding is pretty common.
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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    IMO, if she is inviting guests to their destination wedding / honeymoon, then they should be socializing with them. If they wanted a private honeymoon, then they shouldn't invite guests to their destination wedding. These guests are taking time off work, and spending a lot of their money to be at their wedding for them. They can always opt to take a private honeymoon at a later date.

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  • Melissa
    VIP October 2018
    Melissa ·
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    I agree with this. It's kind of part of the trade off with a destination wedding. Unless they lock themselves in their room with the do not disturb sign on the door and ignore everyone that knocks, there really is no way to avoid interacting with guests.

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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
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    With our DW we planned dinners/lunches/breakfasts with the guests to make sure we were seeing everyone and made sure we had at least one meal that we didn't schedule with anyone. It was the only time we were alone. We thought we'd have more solo time but it was nice seeing everyone who like pp said spent so much money and took time off just to come see us. If your daughter wants a private honeymoon they need to plan for it separately.

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  • Alycia
    Super July 2021
    Alycia ·
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    If they want to be alone at the destination they shouldn’t ask people to travel with them. Would you throw a party and ask guests to come, then lock all the guests out so you can have alone time?
    It’s probably a better idea to have a local wedding, then a private honeymoon at their destination.
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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·
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    I had a DW and it's unreasonable to think that guests won't want to spend time with you when they traveled for you. This is why we did our HM separate.

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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    I agree with PP. Maybe it's best they spend some time away from the resort. I'm sure many people will not be blowing up their phones incessantly.

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  • WeddingCruiser2019
    Devoted January 2019
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    I had a cruise / DW and honestly I found the opposite problem. I barely got to spend time with my guests as me and my fiancé were running around getting things organized for the wedding. It is actually something that I am disappointed about since I wanted to spend time with everyone (whole purpose of us having a DW).

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  • Jazmin
    Super April 2019
    Jazmin ·
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    We are staying at a different location. Our guests are staying in Santo Domingo and y husband and I will be staying in Boca Chica and Punta Cana. So we will have plenty of privacy. Maybe she can do something similar.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    They should stay in a different hotel, or different party of the city. You give up privacy when you invite guests on your honeymoon.

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  • Kat
    Expert May 2019
    Kat ·
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    Agree with PPs. Usually for a DW, the couple still leaves after a few days for another resort/island/whatever for their honeymoon. IMO if you invite all your guests, it’s not a honeymoon and you shouldn’t expect alone time.
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  • Ingrid
    VIP October 2020
    Ingrid ·
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    I'm planning my destination wedding/honeymoon, and I'm telling guests ahead of time that we'll see you at the wedding and the reception, after that don't expect to see us. There are a lot of activities that they can do and enjoy separate from us...money was spent to attend the wedding and enjoy the resort not for me to babysit other adults.
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  • Alexandra
    Super December 2018
    Alexandra ·
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    I agree with this... I think the general premise of a destination wedding is to offer this vacation time to all invited guests... This isn't to say that they can't do a private dinner or something like that, but if they want a private honeymoon I think then they should plan a separate trip...

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