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Just Said Yes May 2018

Destination Wedding/Home Reception

Desirea, on March 31, 2017 at 10:59 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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We are planning to have a destination wedding in Arizona and a reception at home (WA) a couple months after. The destination wedding invite list will be small (max 50). How do I not offend those that aren't invited to the destination? We are having a reception at home so that we can invite everyone to celebrate with us then, but I don't want people to feel like they got invited to the second less important party. If we could have more at the destination we would, but due to budget we cannot.

PS I have a large family and my mother is quiet upset I may offend some of them. Any advice would be so helpful!

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Latest activity by Michelle, on December 19, 2018 at 2:10 AM

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Sarah · on March 31, 2017 at 11:20 AM
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The best way to avoid offense is probably to invite immediate family only to the destination wedding.
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Private_User832 · on March 31, 2017 at 12:08 PM
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I personally don't get the DW and reception after. I know people do it, I just don't get the choice personally. I'm having a DW and invited everyone and those who can, will come but nothing back home.

If you're worried about hurting feelings, I'd invite everyone to the DW or just do a local wedding inviting everyone
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FutureMrsComo · on March 31, 2017 at 12:11 PM
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I agree with private user. You cannot invite people to the reception who were not invited to the wedding unless you have a small intimate wedding (50 is not small and intimate) I'm talking immediate family only.
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Future Mrs.S · on March 31, 2017 at 12:54 PM
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We are having a DW and having 2 after parties.One for his family up North and 1 here for the local family on his side.
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Mandypants · on March 31, 2017 at 1:56 PM
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The only way you can do this and not make people angry is to have a very small ceremony (like, 10 people max) and then invite everyone else to the party (which is a party, not a reception).
Otherwise I'd say save your money and just invite everyone you want to the DW.
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Just Said Yes May 2018
Desirea · on March 31, 2017 at 2:54 PM
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Thank you all for the comments. Keep them coming! Like I said I have a big family so immediate family and close friends= 40 people. Just to clarify our thoughts.
We appreciate all comments!! Thank you!!
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Michelle · on December 19, 2018 at 2:10 AM
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We are doing this and it doesn't seem to be causing issues. Specifically we are planning a DW, then a reception for my extended family and family friends near them. My family is all in one place, in a different state than where I live, and wedding is in Hawaii. FI has really no extended family, so they aren't an issue.
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