Destination Wedding/Bridal Shower?

I'm not really sure how a having destination wedding effects the bridal shower? Usually, all female guests invited to the wedding are potential invites to the shower but some people like to keep it down to just nearest and dearest female guests (aunts, mom, bridal party type thing).

Definitely invite people to the wedding that were invited to the shower. Due to FH and I living across the country from all but 5 guests you can consider our wedding a DW. My mother and sister (also a BM) have decided to throw a Bridal Shower for us in Late April 2016. FH and I will be traveling to them for the shower, I couldn't imagine again everyone to travel across the country twice. I think February sounds like a good time and think it's very considerate of you to do the Bach party when everyone is already in town.

PLEASE don't invite anyone to the shower who is not invited to the actual ceremony & reception! (and an after-wedding cook-out when you get home doesn't count, in my opinion). I've experienced brides who do this and it's VERY awkward. You're actual guests are also likely paying a lot just to attend your wedding.... I think DW brides need to think long & hard about a shower.....

I made my shower pretty much every female guest of the wedding, save for the wife of a family friend where I literally had to ask her name for the invite because I only ever heard "Steve's wife". He's actually a pretty close family friend but his wife isn't social at all and never wants to go anywhere so I think I met her in passing maybe once about 10 years ago.

IMO you can invite every single female wedding guest if you want but many people choose to make showers more intimate, esp if you're having a large wedding. The only real rule is that if they are invited to the shower they have to be invited to the wedding, whether they can make it or not.

While technically yes, the only rule is that anyone invited to the shower should also be wedding invitees, IMO common sense says that DW brides should skip having a shower. I know invitations aren't summons and people can say no, but it seems strange to ask people to spend several hundred dollars on the wedding but then still also want them to bring you a gift before.