Destination wedding Zika?

Tell them they need to speak with their doctor to address the concern.

And don't be surprised if you have friends who don't come because they're planning to conceive.

Honestly I probably wouldn't go to a destination wedding next summer if I were invited for that reason. I think it would depend on who is trying to conceive. One of my close friends had to cancel her trip for a DW to Mexcio this winter because she was pregnant. We're going to Cancun for our honeymooon in a couple of weeks. My parents just got back and assured us that the resorts are heavily sprayed and there's nothing to worry about if you're vigilant with bug spray. They SAY they didn't see a single mosquito. Not sure if they're just trying to get me to not worry though haha

We're getting married in the Riviera Maya and none of our guests have expressed any concern over Zika.

I personally would not go. Even though we have no plans to TTC things happen

If they are trying for a baby they should definitely not go to Mexico! You don't need to see a doctor to know that. My doctor said to wait 6 months after coming back from a place where Zika has been found.

I agree with Cheval. I would direct them to their doctors if they have concerns.

But I would fully understand if I had guests that wouldn't want to come and take that risk.

The United States has a risk of Zika too so just speak to your doctor and be informed.

I think I would have discussed that with my guests prior to booking anything like that.

This is unfortunately a very real concern and the main reason why I didn't have my wedding in Florida (where I live)

Friend: "I'm really worried about zika". You: "Well obviously we'd love to have you there, but health comes first so I totally understand if you don't want to go to the area. I wouldn't hold it against you." If you know they're TTC, add "I'm so excited for your growing/future family!!"

You decided to have a wedding in an area where doctors are advising TTC couples and pregnant women not to go. You had to expect that some of your friends in childbearing age would be TTC or pregnant and thus skip out. 3 of FH's groomsmen are missing his BP for this reason. It's a bummer, but it's their choice and you have to support it without trying to convince them either way. There's no way I'd go anywhere Zika-affected (or affected with anything else that could harm a fetus).

My friend got married in Costa Rica and two of her very best friends couldn't attend due to TTC/Zika. We chose to honeymoon in Europe instead of the Caribbean because of Zika concerns. I'm sure many other brides are running into your same issue. It sucks but when your friends are trying to get pregnant, they'll pick their health over your wedding. (That sounds mean but I mean it sincerely!)

I have no intentions of TTC, but I wouldn't go. Whether people are TTC or not, they may just not feel comfortable being any more at risk!

Especially if they have a compromised immune system.

Https://www.cdc.gov/zika/geo/index.html

This link has some good maps and info on zika in specific areas/towns, yes total nerd moment for sharing a work link on here.

DH and I took a trip to Puerto Vallarta, mexico last fall knowing that there was some active Zika there. However, we stayed at the resort that was heavily sprayed the whole time and didn't do some of the excursions we wanted to just to avoid the wooded areas...we opted for a European honeymoon just in case anything should happen our first few months of marriage (even though we aren't planning on it for several years)

Fact is, there is still a good bit of unknown information on the real long term effects of Zika. The current information out there is simply physicians and public health professionals best educated guess given the information they currently have. If I were even thinking about TTC, id be skipping a DW in a zika area. I know its unfortunate, but peoples health comes first, well before a friends wedding, although I'm sure they would love to celebrate with you.

Yes, this is why I chose a DW in a location without Zika. Please respect your friends who aren't going.

We lost a friendship because my fh had friends who are pissed we're missing their Mexico wedding when our doctor is advising us not to go. Don't guilt them. Accept it and understand and move on for the sake of your friendships. Please don't tell them it's no big deal. It's a big deal. You might not think so but there's no way I'd go against what my doctor advised. It ultimately ruined our friendship and made us respect that couple a lot less, especially when they tried making us feel bad about it.

Wow @Private_User, I cannot imagine anyone guilting you for looking after your health! The nerve.... Sorry you lost a friendship but that's crazy!

Definitely one of the issues of DW in Zika proned areas. I just got back from Mexico near Cancun and I got eaten alive by mosquitos. I also got sick. Doc does not think it is Zika because I don't have the rash, but I am quarantined until I am without a fever for several days. Mosquito born illnesses are real and no joke. He also said if I plan to conceive I need to wait another year (no worries there) just in case. We are doing a DW but are doing a planned elopement because Zika was so much of a concern for most of our friends. So it will be just the two of us!

And yes, we are still going to the islands for our wedding despite the funk I brought back from Mexico. What can I say, I love the islands and there are risks everywhere! That said, I completely understand why he and I will be on our own for this particular vision.

If I wasn't TTC I would definitely go! Zika just. Aides a little achiness and a fever. It's not bad enough to keep me from attending my BF's wedding.

My brother had a destination wedding in Cancun a few years ago and it was stunning! Best wedding I've ever been to! I told tell them not to worry the Zika is usually more south than that.

@mrs - yea, it was a terrible experience. I'm fairly positive they still see no issue with what they did and how they treated us

I am having a DW in Mexico next summer and had never thought of that because we don't plan on TTC any time soon. A colleague mentioned it to me and said don't worry as long as it doesn't offend you. I think just be forthcoming that you are comfortable with them not attending and are not mad at them. I would approach any friends who you think might be worried about it and aren't speaking up just to make it easier for them (I am doing this with any friends who I know are planning on adding to their families within the next year or so). Also, I am including a lot of candid information on my wedding website and that is one thing I am addressing. I am sharing that it is a health concern and if anyone feels uncomfortable exposing themselves we understand and do not take offense. And lastly, if anyone tries to make YOU feel bad for having your wedding there be swift to tell them YOU are planning YOUR special day for YOU. It amazes me how often people want to impress their own priorities into your wedding!