Destination wedding with local reception - etiquette for shower

I would say under those circumstances, it would be fine!

That would be fine.

I say yes. Enjoy the celebrations of getting married. 😊😊

I agree with other responses, yes. People that love you, will want to celebrate this milestone in your life with you. Have the shower and enjoy

View Quoted Comment Thanks, everyone! That helps a lot

Yeah the etiquette of weddings is so interesting to me. Like who wrote the rule book? Even though it's frustrating, I still feel obligated to follow these "rules." Lol...I feel like there will be many people that aren't invited to the wedding that would still love to celebrate with you, so invite them!!

View Quoted Comment Girl you said exactly what I feel about this big book of etiquette lol. Where is it? I think it depends on your friends bc many of my friends know I am eloping and they just want to party and celebrate bc they're happy for me. I also want to celebrate them. I think all women can have celebrations but maybe in a different way.

To me, it's like coworkers throwing you a shower when they know for a fact they arent invited to the wedding. Some people are excited for you and just want to help you celebrate! People will know you're getting married away and if they're still invited to the reception at home I think it's perfectly acceptable to invite them to a shower.

You all have made me feel so much better. I had read some stuff on other forums that pretty much was along the lines of “well, it was your choice to have a destination wedding, and that’s one of the drawbacks.” So relieved to hear these responses...and yeah, who wrote these rules, anyway?!

View Quoted Comment I read those things too and I was even told that and it was kind of heartbreaking. I personally feel regardless of how ever a person decides to do their wedding such as eloping, destination, or a big Grand Event that we are all entitled to be able to celebrate with friends just as we've been there to celebrate for other people. Is you and your future husband's day and if you guys want to do a small destination wedding you have that right and I still think you should have all of the events that any bride would be entitled to.

I would say yes because of it being intimate. Totally fine under your circumstances

I would say that's fine, but that you should not expect out of town guests to attend a bridal shower. It's usually a local people thing

View Quoted Comment Oh definitely. I’m not thinking of having out of town guests at the shower....that’s exactly what caused the problem, since only two of my female wedding guests are local out of our 18 people.

Go for it and have fun!

Nope. Invite only those invited to the wedding to the shower. If they can't attend, well, that's what happens with destination weddings sometimes.

Otherwise you're inviting people two gift-giving events and leaving them out of the wedding itself.