Destination wedding save the dates and invitations

Are all your Facebook friends invited to your wedding? If so, great! If not, I'd take the post down immediately. I also personally don't think a Facebook post counts as a save the date. If you can afford it, I'd send formal save the dates. We sent ours out 10 months in advance. They mentioned our main hotel block & wedding website, and our website was fully set up. Our invites went out 3 months ahead. More than half our guests were from out of state.

We sent out our save the dates about a year out before the event date, our wedding is also a destination wedding. That way it gave them every opportunity to make any arrangements needed with flights, hotels, and work. We just sent out invitations now, so 3 months before the wedding. I would send them as early as you like.

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I would agree with if all the guest aren't going to not count that as the save the date. We defiantly posted about our wedding but we still sent out the formal STD and invitations. We just didn't want anyone to just assume they were invited.

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I understand! Our wedding website is quite brief right now and I am programming it to have password access to certain features (the password only goes to those invited). We can send out additional save-the-dates; I just wanted to check and see what others did.

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Yes, I'd send out formal save the dates. Facebook seems very informal to me and odd to share with all friends if some aren't going (even if they can't access some features).

I would send actual save the dates (digitally is fine) to each specific invitee so they know they’re actually invited. I would never assume I was invited just from a FB post announcing the date. In fact, as months passed and it got closer to the wedding date and I didn’t get anything personally, I’d assume I was not invited.


I would wait until after June to send them.

I sent out save the dates a year before so everyone could book their rooms and make monthly payments. I plan on sending invitations 3 months out to the ones that are attending so they can RSVP on our website and select their entree.