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Just Said Yes May 2022

Destination wedding rehearsal dinner. Who pays??

Carl, on January 13, 2020 at 2:46 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 9

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My partner and I are getting married in Savannah, Georgia on 05/28/20. We aren’t having a wedding party, only 2 FGs and 1 RB. We will having a rehearsal the day before like most people. Then having dinner after. We have basically invited anyone who will be there to join us. It’s going to be a buffet at a set price. We feel like since our guests are traveling for our wedding that we should pay for the dinner. A few friends have said that’s ridiculous for us to do that. What is the proper/ etiquette way to handle it? Also how would we even ask people to pay for themselves? Leave a “donation” basket at the door? Lol. Has anyone else had this dilemma?

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Latest activity by MrsD, on January 13, 2020 at 3:11 PM

Master September 2019
Sherry · on January 13, 2020 at 2:50 PM
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You and your FH should be covering dinner.
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Champion July 2019
Veronica · on January 13, 2020 at 2:50 PM
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You should definitely pay for it. It is rude to expect your guests to pay for their own dinner to celebrate your wedding.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on January 13, 2020 at 2:50 PM
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You should pay for your own rehearsal dinner. It's extremely rude to invite someone to a hosted event and expect them to pay for themselves. You also shouldn't take any kind of "donations."
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Devoted September 2019
Meaghan · on January 13, 2020 at 2:52 PM
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You should pay. You are inviting them therefore you are expected to host them.
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Master January 2015
null · on January 13, 2020 at 2:59 PM
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As pp's have said, you and your FS should pay.
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Devoted October 2020
A · on January 13, 2020 at 3:04 PM
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I think it’s a nice gesture as well as “the right thing to do” for you to foot the bill. A “donation” jar seems a bit tacky, but they might be moved to contribute a bit more to a house fund or honeymoon fund or something like that if they felt you really went above and beyond.
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Just Said Yes May 2022
Carl · on January 13, 2020 at 3:06 PM
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Thanks. Just the few comments confirmed what I was thinking. I felt it was our responsibility to pay.
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Just Said Yes May 2022
Carl · on January 13, 2020 at 3:08 PM
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The donation jar was my poor attempt at a joke. Sorry.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on January 13, 2020 at 3:11 PM
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I've never heard of people paying their own way at a rehearsal dinner so since it technically is (since it's post rehearsal), I'd cover the cost for whoever attends.
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