Shelby
Beginner April 2022

Destination wedding Part 2

Shelby, on February 25, 2021 at 8:42 PM Posted in Planning 0 13
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I know guest handle the expenses of traveling. My question was is it asking too much to expect people to pay more to travel out of state or country for a further wedding, rather than a more local wedding. Should i do a pre save the date survey seeing how many would be willing to travel to our possible destination?

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Latest activity by Kristin, on February 26, 2021 at 12:30 PM
  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    It's a lot especially during a pandemic. Call/email in a regular conversation among those you plan to invite and ask them what their thoughts are. Out of state will be easier than out of the country but you still have to follow that state's quarantine laws.

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  • S
    Expert November 2021
    Sara ·
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    Nope, not asking too much. Guests know that they'd have to spend more to travel to a destination wedding. I wouldn't do a formal survey, but I would consult your VIPs (immediate family and wedding party) to see what they're comfortable spending on travel, and then choose your location after that.

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  • Michelle
    Dedicated March 2021
    Michelle ·
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    My wedding is an destination wedding during this time esp now flights are way cheaper than it was before cause no one wants to travel . It depends where and the cost of the wedding. Are you planning something small or little big? It what make you happy on where you would like to have ur wedding at in the end . Ppl know they have to spend if you do have destination wedding but in the end it up to you.
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  • Catherine
    Dedicated September 2021
    Catherine ·
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    Definitely don’t expect anything, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a destination wedding, either. We’re having an out of state destination wedding. We bounced it off our VIP’s before we booked the venue and no one had an issue with it, so we moved forward.
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  • A
    Super September 2020
    Alli ·
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    No, I would not do a survey...
    pick a date and destination and enjoy it! We have no regrets!
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  • Shirley
    Expert November 2020
    Shirley ·
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    Yeah ask your VIPs so you're not disappointed if they decline after you've planned. My friend sent out surprise invites to her destination in Hawai'i and neither set of grandparents came because they are uncomfortable on long flights at their age. She was devastated
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    This might become our situation. We live in SoCal along with 95% of our guests (65 total). Our current destination wedding is in Vegas. But since our Vegas venue is only allowing 25 people right now, we’re simultaneously looking into inviting 20 guests to Hawaii instead. But, no, we’re’ not asking our guests’ opinion on our idea. However I have shared our tentative plan to the limited guests simply as an “FYI”. And, if we switch the destination, they’ll either be able to attend or they’ll have to decline. But, regardless, FH and I will be there.
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  • A
    Super February 2020
    Andrea ·
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    We kept our dw small and because of how intimate it was, we paid for our guests flights and hotel rooms so that it was easier. All they had to do was take those days off for the wedding Smiley smile
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  • L
    Lady ·
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    Personally, I think it's too much, especially if most people are local to each other/you and otherwise wouldn't have to travel. A pre-survey thing is silly. Just decide what you want and invite people like normal.

    I think if you would change your plans if ppl decided they wouldn't want to travel, i would just have the wedding locally and go on a honeymoon at a cool destination.

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  • Katie
    Dedicated October 2021
    Katie ·
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    We’re doing a destination wedding in Italy (was Sept 2020 now Oct 2021). Few years before the wedding started tossing the Italy wedding idea with our friends and family. We were so surprised how much support we got for our idea!! (Note this was also before covid)....even with covid now all our guests are itching to go and still excited for our event.


    So I don’t think it hurts to ask/mention the idea to the ppl you’d really like at your wedding. But don’t be offended if some aren’t completely on board...the more time you give them too will give people more time to plan ahead !
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  • Katie
    Dedicated October 2021
    Katie ·
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    Also I should mention we’re providing a 3 night stay (and all breakfast and dinners) for all our 100 guests in a villa that sleeps everyone. We did ask for a deposit of $150 per person for the 3 nights...which everyone thought was a steal of a deal, to get 3 nights stay with breakfast and dinners for only $150.
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  • M
    Dedicated September 2023
    Meghan ·
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    Unless it were a small, intimate wedding made up of people who want to spend vacation money/time off work on a wedding, then it's too much to ask for many people, in my opinion. If you test the idea with your VIPs and they're down, then you're golden. I know my family would not like to fly (especially to another country) and spend a large chunk of time together for a wedding (introverts, need their alone time lol), so it wouldn't work for my group, but it might for yours!

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  • Kristin
    Devoted December 2021
    Kristin ·
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    As someone who has had to travel to every wedding they have ever attended, I don’t think it is too much. They can choose how long they want to stay and how they want to travel to keep costs in their comfort range.


    My wedding is also a destination wedding, but mainly because none of our family lives near us. We have a few VIP guests that we are helping pay for some things but other than that we are leaving it up to guests. Some are coming for 10 days and others just 3. I know we can’t expect everyone to make it (especially in these times) and we are ok with that. Since a lot of my family is from England we will be doing a party over there about a year after our wedding for anyone that wasn’t able to make it.
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