Destination Wedding + Kids at Events

Infants are typically the exception to the “no kids” rule for any event. Not only do they literally need their mothers if they are breast fed, but many couples aren’t comfortable leaving their babies with someone else so early. You don’t have to feed them and it’s not like they’re running around the party. I would definitely allow her to bring her child.

Totally agree with Caytyln

Hmmm I'm on the fence with this. Do any other guests have infants? If not then allow it. If yes, then I wouldn't allow it unless you're okay with all of them bringing their infants

If it’s just the infant than I’m thinking that will be fine since they will need to be fed. I can see why they are the exception to the rule as they won’t be running around. We are also having a no children wedding. We have told everyone that has young children to please hire a babysitter, have a night “off” & come celebrate! Most are all for it- having a night away, with adult conversation!

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Thank you, ladies. I see where you're coming from & I can get behind that. I think my best course of action is to let anyone attending the wedding weekend with infants bring their kiddos on Thursday. I'm thinking a lot of people still will end up coming without their kids in general anyways.

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Totally agree, nothing to add.

7 yr olds are still in the totally dependent group of young babies usually given a free pass . As for others, there is no rule of fairness, everybody or no body, at private parties. Not all your coworkers, because the 2 you have a social relationship come. Not all old neighbors, not 3rd cousin's kids because your god child and GM 3 violin student kids come. If anyone asks why she is here you say "because I am the hostess/ bride and I invited her. She will be with a sitter for the wedding, but I wanted to be the first person to ever invite Susie to cocktails. " And put a big smile on your face and walk away. And if someone asks why 2 guests have staeak, and they didn't get that choice, you do not need a song and dance about those keeping Kosher or wheat free diets or 1400 cal diabetic diets. You say, as you can see, we made some exceptions due to people's special needs. More lasagna? No fairness, no why for one person or another specifically.
... With many things, like declining invitations, etiquette says no reason need be given. Hostesses must assume friend has a good reason, and be gracious and polite. And in turn, outside of super bridezilla behavior, like leaving out wives prettier than she is or not inviting people's spouses, good guests assume that hosts have good reason to do what they do, and do not question them about why they invited whom they did, or any special accomodations made for others. They observe that is so, and graciously assume the host has a good reason, no questions asked. To do so is rude, and need not be answered with any explanatory details. And guests who ask again, or gossip with others about it, are rude. People need to remember, who is host and who is guest. 🙂God, how I love my MIL. I only met her 3 times before we were engaged. And on the 4th, at the dinner table with 30 plus relatives, one of my FSIL started in with it, ? kids not invited. And all 5 feet ( wearing heels) of MIL stood up and asked, " Excuse me, but is this your wedding? No it is not. It is J and T's wedding, and they make the decisions." Repeated as needed for any issue our whole planning time. Sometimes she would add in, you decided for your wedding, or one day others will respect you the way you're going to respect them here, the hosts. I would clone her and give her to other couples as a gift, if I could. Another of her good lines, " you say she should.... Did you know it is considered rude for you to question her house rules, when she is hostess? ... Put it in perspective. Someone is questioning your decisions in areas where things are completely up to you. Do not be afraid of questions. If you are doing things for good reasons , continue and make it clear, you are the hosts. ( not, because it is my day and I can do anything I want, which is different and rude).