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Destination Wedding etiquette/questions

Julie, on June 27, 2019 at 11:28 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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So, my fiance and I are in a bit of a pickle. I happy pickle, but a pickle. He is from the UK and I'm from the US. We will be living in Spain at the time of the wedding and are considering Spain as our DW. We'd like everyone to come that can but I'm aware that not everyone in my fam/friend group even have passports. My sister wants to throw me a shower but I don't know if it's okay to have one especially if some people won't be able to attend the wedding due to cost. Also, I mostly just want to see everybody I care about while I'm home for a while and I don't care about gifts. What should I do?

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Latest activity by MrsJohansson, on July 1, 2019 at 7:03 PM

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Caytlyn · on June 27, 2019 at 11:31 AM
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It's perfectly fine to have a shower and invite those who are invited to the wedding, whether they can attend or not.
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Lady · on June 27, 2019 at 3:01 PM
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As long as the people at the shower are INVITED to the wedding, you are fine. It doesn't matter whether they actually go or not.
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Sinéad · on June 28, 2019 at 7:01 AM
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Hey Julie! Congratulations on your engagement!
How exciting to be moving to Spain! What part will you be living in?
I agree it would be wonderful to see all of your friends and family before moving away and a bridal shower sounds like the perfect opportunity! As the pp’s mentioned, as long as everyone who attends your shower is invited to your wedding and has the option to attend if they wish, then it’s fine!!
I hope you enjoy it!!!
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Naikesha · on June 30, 2019 at 8:22 PM
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Congrats on your upcoming nuptials and yes invite them to the shower as long as your are inviting them to the wedding
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Alexandria · on July 1, 2019 at 4:05 PM
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Have the shower! I am having a shower on the US west coast (my home town) and inviting ALL of my west coast family. Even though they might not be able to attend my destination wedding, they can still be in on the celebrations
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MrsJohansson · on July 1, 2019 at 7:03 PM
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You can still have a shower. Just be prepared that many people you want to come may not be able to. We didn't have a shower but we are living in Denmark, FH is Swedish and I am Canadian. A lot of our family wouldn't have been able to attend things given our timeline, everyone has been super understanding and supportive. In your situation, it is probably best to still extend any invitations and to proceed as planned. You can always use the time while back home to connect with those who may not attend.
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