Hi everyone! I have been planning an intimate destination wedding (40 people) for the past six months and invites went out recently. The deadline to RSVP is approaching and one of my bridesmaids still has not RSVPed. I have mentioned this to her several times casually via Snapchat and reminded the bridal party (small, only 3 girls) and she still has not taken the hint.
I’m concerned she’s waiting to the last minute and is going to ask to bring a guest because she is in a brand new relationship (2 months) and totally obsessed with this new person. When we first started planning and invites went out, she was single. Even if they had been dating, a plus one would not have been given because our guest list is so small. To limit the number of guests, we made the decision to only invite those with long-term significant others. Everyone has been fine with this since our group of friends is super tight and the singles have all known each other for 5-10 years so no one going will be “left out” or have to travel alone. We are paying for guests hotel rooms and have everything mapped out already so adding a plus one is frankly not happening.
How should I respond if she asks to bring her new bf? I don’t want to create drama but no one on our guest list is “unknown” to us and I would find it frankly rude if she had the nerve to ask knowing that we are footing the bill for guests and moving her out of a shared room with 2 close friends and into a private room with her bf would cost us significant $$$.
All advice appreciated! I just know it’s coming and would like to be prepared to react rationally and not emotionally.