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Destination wedding- awkward room situation, when do my Fiance and I share the hotel room??

Elsa, on January 31, 2014 at 11:25 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

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Hi everyone!

Im feeling nervous about these circumstances and am wondering if maybe there are others in the same situation..

My Fiance and I have decided to get married in Mexico at a small boutique hotel by the beach, we will be organizing full day events for our guests and it will be during a weekend in June. We both come from conservative families and he is a little older than I (it reallly does't look like it but we're 7 years apart, Im 24) and its our first marriage for both of us. I live at my parents house and obviously we will have separate rooms (I will most likely share with my best friends or younger siblings, him either alone or his best friend) prior to the ceremony but feel VERY nervous and awkward about just "moving in" to his room after the ceremony and during the end of the stay.. its super awkward as we are renting out the entire hotel (its small) and will have all of our guests having breakfast at the same time and dont want people in our business. What do u think?

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Latest activity by Michele, on February 5, 2014 at 5:38 AM

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PattyCakes · on January 31, 2014 at 11:28 PM
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Once he is your husband, it is only natural for you to share a room. Everyone would expect it anyways. Isn't there a honeymoon suite or something?
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B'sWife · on January 31, 2014 at 11:33 PM
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I would imagine your guests would find it odd if you didn't "move in" to his room. Rent a suite you can both move in to. And I doubt anyone will end up in your "business" the next morning. Everyone knows what goes on in hotel rooms on wedding nights and few people want to be that awkward to bring it up. Act normal and you'll be just fine.
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Stephanie · on January 31, 2014 at 11:54 PM
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"Everyone knows what goes on in hotel rooms on wedding nights ..."

Yep! You pass out from exhaustion ;D

Jokes aside, yes, everyone will know that you spent the night together ... because you're married. It sounds like because you're both from conservative backgrounds, you've been very diligent about not living together before marriage. That's great, but ... then you'll be married, so it's not just socially acceptable for you to share a room at a hotel, but it's pretty much expected that you will.
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Kelly · on February 5, 2014 at 1:34 AM
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Girl, he'll be your husband! There is absolutely nothing wrong with it! Everyone knows what will probably happen anyways! I think they would probably be wondering what's up of you didn't move in!
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Starlight · on February 5, 2014 at 1:43 AM
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He should have his own room for the first part. Maybe you can give your stuff to the hotel staff or put it somewhere in your MOH or siblings room before the wedding for somebody to move to your hubby's room so you won't have to shuffle your stuff after the wedding.

Then yes, you should definitely move to his room. It would be weirder not to than it will be to move.
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The Mrs R · on February 5, 2014 at 1:47 AM
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Agreed with PP's. It would be even more odd if you didn't move into his room. I come from a very conservative family and FH and I have not moved in together yet. We won't until after the wedding either. That said, you better believe my wedding night will be spent with my new hubby! Conservative families are still made up of couples who got married, so they understand. They've all been there too.
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Michele · on February 5, 2014 at 5:38 AM
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Girl, you can stay in another room until after your wedding but once you are married I think that you really need to be with your husband. I don't think it would be something most don't know but really most sleep from exhaustion.
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