Destination wedding and bachelorette party

We are you having a destination wedding November 2018.

FH and I live away from our hometowns and where we to college. FH is having a bachelor party in May 2018. I didn't want want to deal with it, and my friends are a little more spread out. I'm going to visit a couple of my friends in 2018 and just spend quality time with them.

I'm kinda struggling with this as well. I live across the country from all 3 of my bridesmaids...who also all live in 3 different states. Thankfully though, they are more excited about doing a Bachelorette moer than I am! Even though it means traveling twice in a row! They all have families so I was surpised. I think it was a relief for them that I decided to forgo the Bridal Shower....

Now i am just trying to make sure that whereever we do the Bachelorette party that we are going somewhere cheap! Goodluck!

It's not a destination wedding if you're having it where you live, even though people have to travel from other states to get there.

ETA: We are doing a local wedding, but a lot of our family is traveling since they live all over the country....but that's still not a destination wedding. Also, we did a destination bachelorette. Those that wanted to come came, and those that couldn't didn't.

Leave it up to whoever plans the bachelorette party (which should NOT be you) to decide on a location. You can certainly let that person know your concerns about your OOT friends/family and wanting to include them, but that's about all you can do.

@Joanna often times the person planning asks for suggestions on location for bachelorette party. It's fine to make suggestions. ETA: Every one I've ever been to the person planning asked the bride their preference first.

We had a DW and all of our families are everywhere in the country. We just had a small get together in our hotel room 2 days before the wedding. It was a nice time.

I had a DW a week before Christmas last year. It was in the U.S., but destination for everyone, including some who flew cross-country. Around 100 came of the 140 invited.

I've been thinking about the bachelorette party too because my sister/MOH lives on the other coast (I live in CA she lives in FL), one of my BM lives 8 hrs, and the other one lives in Sweden so who knows how that is going to work

Great ideas!

Yes a friend of mine volunteered to plan it and she did ask where I wanted to have it. I dont need a bridal shower but my mom usually likes to plan those. Maybe if I can do a trip back home we could do that and get together with girls from my home state if they couldnt come to the bachelorette...

I'm from FL, FH is from TX. We reside in GA and are potentially moving in 6 months to MO because FH has been offered a new *dream* job. Our families are both back in hometown states and we both have friends that live across the US. And we're planning a wedding on top of all that good stuff.

I am thinking I may end up doing a bridal shower and a bachelorette party over the same weekend and more than likely in my home state, a few months out from the wedding date. FH and I decided we were going to get married in his home state, but are viewing venues that accommodate out of town guests and lessen the financial burden of those we especially want to be present on our special day.

We are splitting it up, but everyone seems on board. Quite frankly, plan ahead, and whoever can come, can come, whoever can't, can't. You can try your best to include everyone, just note that travel can be difficult and try and be understanding of that!

Sorry for the long post, but I know where you are at with this!