Destination Wedding advice

I'm doing a destination wedding as well. Aside from the legal ceremony just with the kids the day before we leave, we are not doing another reception. A 2nd reception is ok. However it's a major faux pas to host your own shower. Someone either throws you one or you dont have one (not the end of the world). I dont think anyone is planning one for because we are older and more establish. His mother asked me if I wanted one when the subject came up in conversation. I told her no, I dont need one. You could ask someone to host for you but I think that is tacky as well. Its comes across like you are creating a reason for people to give you gifts. Congrats on the upcoming wedding. I hope it is beautiful. You are fortunate that 30 people would come. Its looks like only have 21 guests. Others either couldnt go or could not afford to go. We find it to be perfect because we are only celebrating with those that mean the most to us.

I agree with Heather. If someone offers to host a shower for you, feel free to accept the offer

Other wise if you are wanting a shower, ask the bridesmaids to throw one for you. But instead of asking for the gifts tell them that you want to just ay some fun games and hang out

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the advice. It helps a lot!
I know usually the bridal party host and plans the shower but I’ve told them I didn’t think I should have a shower because not everyone is coming to the actual wedding and I feel odd having one like that. A lot people I’ve talked to say I should still have so I wanted to get others advice that are going though the same thing or have done it
thanks again I hope you have a beautiful wedding!

A shower is planned by someone else so let them deal with sending out invites for it. We did a small DW with 30 guests and sent out invites to those who were invited. Anyone that asked about the wedding we told we were doing it in Vegas with family and a small handful of friends. Some asked if we were doing a reception when we got back home and we told them if we did then we would invite them but we didn't end up doing one. You don't really have to go around telling everyone your plans. Just let those who ask know what you are doing.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the advice. Can I ask why you didn’t end up having a party when you got back? And did you have a shower?
Thanks again

We had a DW with 15 members of our immediate family. We didn’t have a shower or a bridal party. We also didn’t have a party when we got back. We didn’t feel the need to throw a big party or else we would have thrown a 200 person local wedding in the first place.

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We opted out of it because we just couldn't justify spending that much money on it. The whole purpose for us doing a small DW was to invite less people and spend less money. We felt like if we had a reception here afterwards me may as well have just gotten married here.

We did not have a shower. My cousin was my MOH and I told her the only thing she needed to do was come and stand by my side. It was the 2nd wedding for both of us though so no one was offering to do it.