Destination or local

Do what you and your FH wants to do? If most of your family lives the farthest away I would have it where your family is at but again that's just me. I would definitely put it out there for both sides of the families and see what everyone says..

We had a similar dilemma. We live in TX, his family is in CO and mine is in CA. We decided it would be easier to hold the the wedding where a majority of family/friends reside. Rather than have everyone travel to somewhere in the middle. Plus, a majority of our guests are on his side so it’s cheaper for my few family members to travel CO.

It’s definitely up to you but in my opinion it’s a lot easier to plan a wedding where you actually live.

I think you should do it where you live now.
Just the thought of having all of you travelling to somewhere in the middle sounds like extra expenses and stress.

Totally up to you as PP's have said. I will say that a former co-worker of mine had a similar issue. Her whole family lives in California and she moved to South Carolina where she met her husband, which is where all of his family lives. They didn't want to make one side of the family travel across the country and not the other, so they had their wedding in Colorado so everyone would have to travel

My entire family lives about 3,000 miles away. (I moved right after college and never looked back). We live in a beautiful state (Colorado) and having the wedding anywhere else wasn’t even a consideration for us. It’s where we live, and it’s what’s best for us. His family all conveniently live here, but none of my family is resentful that they don’t have to travel, they’re just happy to be there for my wedding. It’s also helpful because the family members I have to invite (but don’t really want there) will likely not be able to afford to fly out.


The only problem we’re having is that hotels are very expensive around the time of my wedding (June, pride festival, outdoor show). But my family is considering renting a house.
All said, decide what option works best for you. If you like your home, get married there, if it would feel more special to get married in your home town, do it there, if there’s a beautiful place you’ve always wanted to see, get married there. What matters is that you guys are happy.

It is completely up to you and your intended. However, some things to consider are:

cost of his family getting hotels if you go elsewhere

difficulty planning from a distance for a DW

size of the families

(My family is small so having them travel in isn't a big deal. If your distant family is bigger, that might be something to consider.)

Do it where you live!

My family is from Michigan, his is from Texas, and we live in Florida. It’s our wedding so we are doing it where we live! Haha.

How do you and your FH picture the big day? Where do you picture it? Ultimately your friends and family are coming to the wedding to support you - so go ahead and strike the word forced from your vocabulary!

A few things I would consider:

1. Who are your "I can't get married without having you here" people...assuming this comes down to a very small list: immediate family, grandmother, best friend, etc. consider if any of them have any particular physical or financial travel restrictions.

2. Consider accommodations for those who will be traveling and how you can ease that - setting up a hotel block with discounted rate, picking parents up from the airport, etc. If you're saving significant money having the wedding on personal property and not shelling out for a venue, consider putting that toward additional accommodations (even though no one would give you side eye to keep that in your savings account)

3. What's the plan post-wedding? If you're immediately jetting off for a honeymoon I would think about getting home. If taking a long flight to get to the wedding destination, coming back from the honeymoon could mean a long flight back to that destination to gather remaining items (because you likely won't take EVERYTHING you brought for the wedding on the honeymoon) and an additional flight back home

This is always tough. I think that you should keep your options open - figure out what type of venue you picture for you big day. then just kind of google it. thats how i found mine lol

my family is from IL (some live in TN, WA, MD) and my husbands family is in NY. i found tons of venues here i loved but WAY TOO EXPENSIVE. we got married in PA at The Lodge at Mountain Springs Lake Resort. the venue was perfect and beautiful and in my price range.

We face this exact same thing. I grew up in one state (where most of my family is), then moved to another state after graduating and have been there for 10 years. FH grew up in yet another state (where are most of his family is). We tried to look at it from every angle to figure out the most “fair” way of doing things. After hours of exhaustive contemplation, we finally decided to just do what makes US happy. We are having a DW in a location that NO ONE lives. We figured if we were going to make some people travel, we might as well make them all travel - and give them a really fun destination to travel to! In the end, this is your day and your celebration. Definitely choose whatever makes you and your spouse most happy!