Destination? Covid? Compromise?

I really don’t think having your dream wedding is selfish. I also have that dream. I was booked in Jamaica for November 2020, and am currently moving to 2021. I took a lot of consideration when choosing the resort for the cost to the guest. I can not afford to chip in for peoples rooms. I have 24 invited guests and only 2 declined due to cost. You are not being selfish. We deserve that one day we pictured in our mind. I am hoping that late spring will be ok for travel. I would never put my loved ones at risk which is why it’s not happening in November. BUT I realized just how important it was to me, so I rebooked it. And aside from the cost to your guests, you will spend less on a venue if you have guests staying with you. Venues for 2021 are booking up, however my resort, for instance, usually only does one wedding a week. They can’t accommodate that for 2021 and are doing 2 a week. Don’t give up, and give your guests as much time as you can for them to save. My guests had 18 months to plan and save, and now an additional 5 months 🤪

I say go with what you and your fiance' really want. I'm doing a destination wedding as well. The people who really want to go are going to make it happen. You can work with a travel agent they are super helpful. We did have a bit of back in fourth with the parents in the begin. After a month and going to the travel agent with me they now love the idea. Dont give up on what you want. Everything will work out in the end.

I don’t think having a spring wedding next year is selfish. If you want to celebrate with people who can’t make it you could do some local dinner party with them

No. Planning your wedding isn’t selfish. We have no idea what’s to come with this virus. So if you want March 2021, definitely do it.


We’re scheduled for October 2020 but recently decided to postpone to October 2021. We chose to push it out a full year (instead of sooner) for factors specific to our plans. We’re having a destination wedding in Vegas with 65 guests. Since our guests have to travel (mainly just from SoCal), we’re hosting a weekend of planned gatherings in addition to the wedding. With Vegas being a busy tourist location, we’d rather push it out far enough to (hopefully) have a better chance at a less restrictive weekend for our guests and increased comfort for them in Vegas.
This is both of our second marriages, we’re in our 40s and not having kids. So there’s no rush for us. But each couple’s wedding scenario is different. So do what works for you all and your situation.

I would plan the spring 2021 DW like you want. It isn't selfish. We can't completely stop our lives for over a year; it just isn't practical.

You're not being selfish at all. You and your future spouse deserve the have the wedding of your dreams. If it were me, I'd plan the wedding I want and if something happens next year with COVID-19, I'd have a backup plan in place. If there starts to be a spike in cases again toward the end of the year and the beginning of next year, and you decide to postpone, if it were me, I'd go to the courthouse to get married and then have a ceremony and reception once it all clears up.

I agree with that Elizabeth said; we can't stop our lives for over a year because of this virus. I know it's unpredictable, no one saw this coming or saw it being as huge as it has been, but we can't live in fear of what might or might not happen. We can only prepare ourselves the best we can.

Thank you everyone for your input! It really has put me at ease and I feel a lot better about moving forward with our plans.

Hi Aleisha. We are also having a 2021 spring destination wedding. I do not think it’s selfish I have also came to weddingwire for the same advice and I have been reassured by plenty girls that it’s not selfish, everyone is moving their dates to 2021 in order to be in the clear of covid. Don’t cancel your idea of a Dream day or let anyone get you down about it, just keep planning what you want to have. Set a budget and how much you are realistically willing to spend to help you determine your guest number 🙂 we are planning on renting a beach home with several rooms for our immediate guests to come and they can just pay for their flights. Our wedding is going to be really small and intimate so it’s the least we can do. It can be done don’t get discouraged yet, though I know it is hard. Stay positive- especially during a time like this we need all of the positive vibes we can get ❤️Good luck!