Hi everyone! My brother is getting married this September and they are planning an August bachelorette in Vegas. We are all in Phoenix, AZ so though they plan to fly, I could drive if need be. I'm one of 4 bridesmaids (and there are 2 MOHs).
Last week, I got an email about the bachelorette in Vegas. They're still in the planning stages but informed us that the hotel would be $500-600 for the weekend, depending on how many people end up going. I'm on a pretty tight budget right now (in grad school and have five other weddings to attend around the country this year, though I plan to decline at least two of them due to the sheer cost of all of this travel). I wasn't consulted on the destination, nor was I asked what my budget is. With presumable dinners and shows, we're looking at over $1000 for the weekend (on top of the $1500 I'm already paying for the wedding itself between the hotel, transportation, hair/makeup/dress, etc).
Am I out of line for not wanting to shell out this much money? Is there a way to politely decline? What's the best way to do it given that the email thread solely includes the bridal party? I initially replied that I am hoping to be able to make it but recommended other hotel options because of the cost, and after looking over our budget for the remainder of the year (and various bills/credit card statements), I don't think I can swing it.