Depression setting in

I hope you start feeling more excited about your wedding again. Do you have your dress? If so try it on again. That's what I did when I was feeling stressed and overwhelmed. It helped me ALOT!

I was just about to post and "i'm officially sad" post because I feel you. I'm so sorry that you have to postpone again. We kept staying optimistic and made no plan and now postponing isn't an option because we wouldn't be able to get any money back from the venue. One of my lifelong family friends just said she couldn't come, my grandma may not come, and my fiance's dad is unsure if they can because they'll be traveling from Seattle. Every time I find something to get excited about it's like fifteen other things come up that are like psych. I'm so excited to get married but also a, just kind of ready to get it over with because I'm so emotionally exhausted. I feel for all my fellow COVID brides. I think focusing on whatever pieces can get you excited and hang in there because at the end of the day you'll be a MRS

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Not to sound harsh, but it sounds like you've put a lot of pressure on yourself with the wedding planning. That in itself isn't healthy for you. You seem so focused on making everything perfect that perfect sometimes is not achievable.

I hate that you had to postpone your wedding again and yet fully understand the reasons you have. Not sure how long you're postponed for, but my advice to you is to take a step back, relax, breathe and just enjoy being engaged a minute. Try to remember why you loved all the planning. But don't put so much pressure on yourself. Reach out to friends / family and get a little help to take some of that pressure from you. (I know that's hard to do when you're one who needs / wants to be in control).

When things get a little more normalized, go back to your planning and all the joy you had before will come back. I promise it seems hard now, but it does get easier and better.

There really is so much pressure on us brides in particular to pull a spectacular wedding out of our a**es! It definitely wears on you. Especially with the pandemic and having to reschedule so many times and working with all the vendors to reschedule and blah blah - girl, I feel you, and I'm so sorry that you have to deal with all of that.

Just remember that this doesn't need to be "perfect". I'm sure it'll be so lovely once it's finally here. And once you can finally have your wedding, it'll be that much more special. Just remember that it's about you and your fiance ultimately (although i definitely understand the pressure from friends and family to make things go a certain way or maintain a certain made up standard). You're a rockstar!! Just keep your eye on the prize: A wonderful marriage

I can relate to this so much. I'm so sorry any of us have to go through this. I've also put a lot of time and effort in planning the wedding of our dreams, and for it all to come crashing down is indeed heartbreaking. I cried far too hard two nights ago. A lot of mixed emotions on postponing/cancelling/eloping and indecisiveness. I'm also typically not a down in the dumps kind of person, but this is really getting to me. I wish there was something, anything, I could say to make you feel better. But I know nothing can make me feel better. What does help is knowing I'm not the only one going through this, although I wouldn't wish it upon anyone.

Your feelings are valid ❤️

I am sorry that you feel that way. I know that it is hard bc I had to postpone my wedding too but I am looking forward to marrying by best friend and I know that day will be one of my happiest day. I know that it is hard bc you have planned for your big day. Just know that everything will work out for you and your fh. Everything will fall into place so worry or stress about anything (which is hard to do). Stay positive, stay calm bc your dreams and hard work become a reality.

I’m so sorry that you had to postpone again. I definitely understand (and feel) the pressure that comes with doing 90% of the planning yourself, and having a crazy MIL. It’s really disappointing having to postpone but take a deep breath and know that you can relax now. You’ve postponed and you can stop thinking about it for a while now. Life is still happening and while it’s upsetting to have so many plans ruined, the next year (or however long you have postponed) will pass and you WILL get to have your day. Hang in there

I'm right there with you mood-wise. I'm so sorry that you had to postpone twice, and it sounds like you've been handling it much better than I would have. You're definitely entitled to feel down! People who aren't going through this don't seem to understand what a grieving process it is.

We're on Plan B at the moment, which is get married on our original wedding date with a much smaller group, and no dancing or anything (just a formal dinner). As each day passes, I wonder if Plan C is more likely -- immediate family only.

It's getting harder and harder for me to look at "normal" wedding pictures from other people pre-pandemic. And as I assess and reassess our options, I get more conflicted over what's best.

I hope you feel better, and that you get to show off your designs soon!

Sending positive vibes! Postponing for a 2nd time really sucks for a lot of us. (I was a June 2020 bride to October 2020 bride to......TBD) These are unprecedented times. I wish people around us were more understanding and did what they could to reduce our stress instead of adding to it. I hope for you and everyone, things pan out and we get some clearer direction moving forward.

Ours was the 19th! We decided to cancel and get married in the courthouse. 35 out of 180 RSVP-ed. The grooms mom is holding information to give to the rest of his family, which is just like... unbelievable. I don't want to give up on this because it's a pivotal point in our life and it's not fair to have it "taken away." All in all, I guess I just have to proceed differently and not give up. I'll have to settle with a different year to celebrate. Thanks Katerina.

I do have my dress! Maybe I'll try that, although I might cry. Thanks Yasmine. I'm not gonna give things up completely, even if it happens in a few years.

OH my G. Thanks. You have a great point. I'll be a MRS!!! *BIG HUGS*

It's not really the planning that hurts so much, honestly, but you're right that I should remember how much I enjoyed it. That stuff is all said and done with now. It just sucks that there were no fruits from it.

The soon-to-be mother-in-law, as far as I can tell, gets kicks out of messing with our life. She controlled the communication to the rest of the grooms family and has been playing nasty games with us. It really makes me nauseous to talk/think about. I've never met a person like this before. Usually if I find out someone is malicious I can walk away and live my life, but it's his Mom, so I felt like it's the right thing to try to work things out and include her. So along with that mess and COVID 19, it's been a hell of a trip.

Thanks Margaret. I think I will go back to planning a wedding event for us once things are normalized. I have learned a lot this year and the best I can do is take what I learned and make things better next time.