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Depressed a week before my wedding

Samantha, on October 25, 2017 at 2:43 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 1 5

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I have been with my fiancé for 7 years and I really can't picture my future without him. But I've been so depressed lately I'm procrastinating on so many things I need to get done for the wedding and I do not find my self at all excited. I never thought we would actually get married I'm wondering if this is why. He has been very distant as well, he's having a hard time at work so he comes home in a bad mood almost always. When I ask him for help he shows no interest ..

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Latest activity by Constance, on October 25, 2017 at 9:26 AM

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Mrs. Sitz · on October 25, 2017 at 4:18 AM
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I felt similar a couple weeks prior to my wedding. I think maybe it's due to burnout. I highly recommend that you both take a night together & go out without any wedding talk & just have a good time. Also, I'm wondering why you said you never thought you'd get married. It sounds like there could be some issues that you're not sharing here. Please see a counselor. You need to be sure this is what you want before you walk down the aisle!
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EE · on October 25, 2017 at 5:04 AM
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If it's any consolation, having workplace struggles is a real mood killer. Trust me, I would know. Add a wedding on top of that, and it's stress all the time. I'm having a hard time concentrating on my wedding due to a toxic workplace. Be patient. I know it's easier said than done.
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Kayla · on October 25, 2017 at 8:22 AM
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Have you considered a month of wedding coordinator? That may take a lot of stress off of both of you. Wedding planning is stressful enough - add in any other drama that may be happening or a bad work environment and that sounds terrible! My FH and I always find a weekend away from our stressors (no wedding talk, no social media, no work, etc.) helps us kind of come back to our roots and rediscover ourselves as a couple. Good luck!!
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MDEasternShoreBride · on October 25, 2017 at 8:45 AM
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Definitely felt burn out immediately pre and post wedding but was able to get excited again thinking about my family and friends coming to celebrate with us and it helped with the final push of getting things done. I also had H and I take a day off every weekend the last few weeks before the wedding and do something fun and not wedding related. The last Sat prior we broke the rule and decided to taste test our signature drink cocktails and come up with recipes. That was FUN.
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Constance · on October 25, 2017 at 9:26 AM
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DH and I were struggling with each other prior to the wedding. Planning was not my cup of tea. Engagement sucked, but married life has been fantastic. We've been together 6 years. I'd highly recommend counseling if you are struggling with depression. Couples counseling is also helpful. We did make it a point to go on dates and not talk about the wedding in the month prior to the wedding. It was so worth it.
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